I remember when I was growing up in England during the 70’s and 80’s people talked about a mid-life crisis and the image that usually accompanied it was a middle aged man in a red sports car with a younger lady on his arm. Yes, this was a stereo-typical image at the time but my question is: Is there still such a thing as a mid-life crisis and, if so, what does it look like now?
I believe that the mid-life crisis still exists but it isn’t as obvious as rushing out to buy a sports car or a Harley Davidson (although I did when I turned 50!). The signs may be less obvious and here are some that you may want to be aware of:
You start to question everything that you have worked for and ask is it enough or was it all worth it?
You wonder if this is all your life is worth, have I reached my peak and now everything else is downhill as I coast to retirement?
You dread going to work on Monday morning, celebrate Wednesday as “Hump day” and live for Friday at 5pm.
I want to help make 2019 Your best year ever so I put together this training on "How to Live a Purposeful 2019"
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As we approach the holiday season many people will start to get stressed, seeing the negatives about how much they have to do, how little time they have, comparing themselves with what other people have or are doing. Others will see this season as a blessing and approach it with a sense of happy anticipation.
Which one sounds more like you?
It is said that the holidays are one of the most stressful times of year, which when you think about it is kind of ironic, right? This is a time when troubles should be left behind and we think about other people, it is the time for giving and celebration of life itself.
The truth is, we all have the ability to choose our attitude, not only at this time of year but every single day of our lives. We can choose to see the positive aspects or the negative aspects and in return we will receive the results of those thoughts. I am not denying that we all face obstacles, of course we do. The difference is how we see those obstacles. Are they things that...
How do you talk to yourself?
This may sound like a strange question but think about it for a minute, what do you say to yourself when things are going well and when they are not going quite so well? When you make a mistake, what do you say to yourself?
The next question I have is: Would you say the same to someone else?
If not, why is it okay to speak to yourself in this way? Simply put, it isn't so don't do it. Subconsciously you talk to yourself more than anyone else does so be careful what you say. Remain positive and motivational because the thoughts you put into your subconscious mind will translate into their physical equivalent.
Many people ask me how do you find your why, and how do you know when you have found it? These are great questions and all I can share is my own experience.
My life has been successful from a professional perspective but not always on a personal level. Even within my professional life I found myself always wanting more and becoming impatient for success. I had a great career in the UK as a leader/Manager within the retail automotive industry. I had a natural talent for analyzing, planning, and delivering results but it never made me truly happy. I always thought that happiness would come as a result of success and money - boy was I wrong!
Even when I started my new life in the USA with a new relationship and a career with Disney, I still was not happy. Success came professionally once again but, as in the past, it didn't bring me happiness and therefore my personal life suffered. I hit rock bottom in August 2015 and at this point I knew something had to change or I would end up self...
Many people believe that being able to multi-task will guide them to a successful life. The truth is, Focus is the one thing that will get you further in life.
As human beings we are only able to focus on one thing at a time and therefore being able to single-task effectively is a far more productive skill to master. I have been guilty of trying to do too much and as a result achieving little, even though on the surface it looked like I was extremely active.
If everything is a priority, nothing is a priority!
Focus stands for: Follow One Course Until Successful. When you grasp this concept you can learn to prioritize and schedule your tasks, which in turn will allow you to get more done in less time and therefore be more productive.
When you start to think about your why I suggest that you ask yourself the following questions:
Take time to review these and really think into your answers. You may need to go several layers deep rather than scratch the surface. This is like a doctor looking for the cause rather than merely taking the symptoms as being facts.
The last question you should ask is: "What is my purpose in life?"
Write down your answer and write another answer. Keep answering until you find one that makes you emotional - that is your real answer!
Leadership is influence because the sign of a good leader is how many people willingly follow them. The best way to get followers is to influence them by inspiration.
I have worked for some "leaders" who are really managers. By this I mean that they dictate what happens, they don't show you the way. They are more focused on telling you how many people report to them as a sign of their importance when they should be more concerned about saying how many people they work for.
A great leader is determined by the performance of their team, not themselves. I would often tell my teams that my success is measured by their success so I was there to support them.
I will repeat again: Leadership is Influence. Who are you currently influencing by your actions?