Research has shown that the population can be split into four communication styles, D, I, S, and C. We are all a blend of these four styles with one being our primary.
DISC is not profiling people and putting them in a "box", is is all about understanding people and how to communicate with them. In other words, how to speak their language.
When you communicate with someone you are encoding a message that you want them to receive. When the message arrives, the recipient decodes it. Very often the action of encoding and decoding produces different results and therefore the message is "lost in translation".
You can also see this when trying to communicate to someone in a foreign language, such as French. You may send the message in English or try and translate it into French yourself. Either way, it is not likely to be received in the state you intended. Even if you use a translator, the message can still be incorrectly relayed because they do not understand your intentions and may use...
I was inspired today by an email that contained the following quote from the secret:
"The fastest way to receive is to give, because giving starts the reciprocal action of receiving. We all receive according to how much we give. Give the best of you everywhere you go. Give a smile. Give thanks. Give kindness. Give love. Your giving should be a giving without expectation of return – a giving for the sheer joy of it." — Rhonda Byrne
I have written before about giving to grow and so I wanted to share this quote as it backs up that thought. When we give purely to receive, the Universe knows and in the long run that will run out. When you give your best and expect nothing in return, you should not be surprised when you actually receive more. This happens because you are doing things for the right reason so give kindness , give love, and make a difference in someones life every day.
There is no doubt about it, when you are doing what you love for a living life feels so much better. Are you doing this? If not, why not?
Many people are not in jobs that they would choose, so why do they stay in them? There is an inherent fear that exists within us that holds us back. Fear of being able to support the family and lifestyle, fear of not being good enough, and fear of what other people will think if we are not successful.
While these fears undoubtedly exist, they are not insurmountable. The key to overcoming these is finding your purpose, your "why", and then following it.
You can become what ever you want to be and to do so you have to start now. Someday, tomorrow, and the perfect time will never come so the right time, and the only time, to start making the change is today.
What do you want to do for the rest of your life?
Positivity is a state of mind that you can choose to adopt or not. I prefer to be positive because I believe that we control our own destiny and we are what/who we believe we are. Here are some of my favorite quotes:
"Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you are usually right" - Henry Ford
"The only thing that keeps a man going is energy and what is energy but liking life?" - Louis Auchincloss
“You have got to get up every morning with determination if you’re going to go to bed with satisfaction” – George Lorimar
"You don't hire for skills, you hire for attitude. You can always teach skills" - Simon Sinek"Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality" - Earl Nightingale
Here is one of my own to inspire you today:
"Go out and make a difference, not only to your life but to that of others, and only then will you experience true freedom" - Chris Baker
All of our experiences are opportunities to learn, whether they be good or bad experiences. We tend to dwell on the bad experiences or simply dismiss them. The danger with this is that we may never learn and therefore we have a tendency to repeat these.
The definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. This also indicates that the problem is caused by not reflecting on what went wrong and learning from this to make ourselves stronger.
My encouragement for today is to create 15-30 minutes every day to reflect on what has happened throughout the day and how you can use these experiences, good or bad, to make a difference in the future.
How many momentous days have you had in your life?
What made them so momentous?
What was the result of these days?
I believe that a day which warrants the tag "momentous" should be a life changing day and therefore the result should make a difference. Sometimes these days are not so positive for us and others are very positive. Either way, they are a learning opportunity and should help to define a better future.
I am facing my own momentous day today as it is my last with the Walt Disney Company. My life is changing as I leave this comfort zone to become my own boss. I have discovered my purpose in life, which is to add value to other people so that they can become the best version of themselves.
What will your momentous day be?
It is said that you do not know the character of a person until you have observed how they handle adversity. I believe that this is true because when things are going well it is easy to remain positive and maintain your actions. However, when things are not going to plan and you face adversity, how you react defines your character.
Another famous saying is that when the going gets tough the tough get going and this is also true. You see, if you do not have a clear understanding of your purpose and vision there will be a tendency to change track and find an easier destination when faced with tough times. However, when you have a clear understanding of your purpose and vision you will power through the tough times and find a detour that will get you back on track to your original destination - your dream.
Think about this in your own life and answer the question honestly to yourself: How have you handled adversity or setbacks in the past?
When you give you grow......
There are people who give to receive, and there are those who give because it is the right thing to do. The former may receive short term gains but the latter will receive in the long term and grow as a result.
"You will get all you want in life if you help other people get what they want" - Zig Ziglar
My fulfillment comes from adding value to others and helping them to become the best version of themselves, showing them that it is possible to live their dreams and find a life of freedom and happiness.
You can have this to and the best way to achieve it is to give and then grow.
When you are listening to a speaker or reading an article, is the message designed to impress you, or impress upon you?
There is an important difference between these two intentions. When someone is trying to impress you with their story it is not for anyone's benefit other than boosting their own ego. The opposite is true when the author is aiming to impress upon you as this message is for your benefit - to add value to you and make a difference.
We all influence people and it is our responsibility to impress upon them, not impress them.