Mistakes are going to happen when you push yourself to be the best you can be. In truth, they also happen when you are not pushing yourself but for different reasons. Either way, we should learn from these mistakes and count them as a blessing.
This is what I refer to as having a growth mentality where we stretch ourselves every day in an effort to continue growing and developing our performance. In this state we will try new things and when we try new things we will inevitably be faced with temporary setbacks, commonly referred to as failures.
I am preparing to hold my first Mastermind workshop with a combination of adults and 10-16 year old kids, based on John C. Maxwell's book, Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn (Adult and Teen version). The message is this: Setbacks only become failures when we accept them as such so adopt a different mindset and use these as opportunities to grow.
Are you superstitious? As I write this it is August 13th which made me wonder how many people feel that 13 is an unlucky number?
I don't see 13 as being unlucky. My last name is Baker and 13 is said to be a "Baker's dozen." My youngest son, Adam was born on Friday 13th, another traditionally "unlucky" day.
So where did the notion that 13 is unlucky come from? Some say it dates back to events in the Bible, such as Judas Iscariot, the 13th guest to arrive at the Last Supper, is the person who betrays Jesus. Traditionally there were 13 steps leading up to the gallows, and there was a mass arrest and execution of the Knights of Templar on Friday October 13th, 1307.
According to the Stress Management Center and Phobia Institute in Asheville, North Carolina, more than 80 percent of hi-rise buildings in the United States do not have a 13th floor, and the vast majority of hotels, hospitals and airports avoid using the number for rooms and gates as well.
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The Football season (Soccer in the US) has started again and already there is talk of Managers (coaches) losing their job with bets being taken on who will be first. The Manager of my own team, Leicester City, is one of the favorites to go and this is what prompted my thought for the day: Who is responsible for results, the leadership or the team?
You will hear arguments on both sides with some saying it is all down to the leadership and others saying that the team isn't performing as planned - usually dependent on whether you are in a leadership position!
I believe that responsibilities lie on both sides as the leadership team is there to pull everyone together and the team should follow the plan. However, I also believe that the main culprit is neither set of people, it is communication, in reality the lack of effective communication.
As a DISC certified Human Behavior Consultant I work with individuals, couples, and teams to help them identify better ways of communicating...
Good morning and welcome to another wonderful day!
Whatever happened yesterday, it has gone so make today a new start. You can learn from yesterday, whether things went well or not so well. If they went well, what can you do to enhance that and use it in the future? If things didn't go quite so well, what happened and how can you make sure it doesn't happen again?
One thing is for sure, you cannot change the events of yesterday so do not dwell on them beyond your reflection. You may find yourself in the mindset that says you will work on things tomorrow - well let me tell you another truth, tomorrow never comes!
Today is the only day that you can take action so make it count!
I am sure that there are people out there who are at the mid-point of their life, "half time" so to speak, that know they have more to offer in the "second half", if only they get the chance. Do you know anyone in this position?
Napoleon Hill says: "We call it "getting into a rut," which means that we accept our fate because we form the HABIT of daily routine, a habit that finally becomes so strong we cease to try to throw it off"
Do not accept what you have as being all that you can achieve. Please share this post with anyone that you think may be in this situation as I want to make a difference to everyone who feels this way. There is a NEW way of thinking that can provide a life of freedom and fulfillment and it will be my pleasure to share it.
If continue to take the actions you are taking today, what will your life be like in 10 years time?
Will you look back and be proud of what you have achieved, or will you look back and say, what if?
If we want a better tomorrow we have to change our actions today because this is what makes the difference. Albert Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results.
I believe that we all want a better tomorrow so take control by choosing the actions you take today wisely. Be intentional and have a definite plan as to what you want your future to look like. Do not live in fear of failure, live instead in fear of regret!
There is a well used saying that: Knowledge is power.
I am going to disagree with that because knowledge alone is not power, it is what you do with that knowledge that creates the power. This is the difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it.
You have probably heard me ask the following question before: 5 Frogs were on a log, 4 decided to jump off, how many were left on the log?
When I first heard this my answer was none because 4 jumped and the 5th followed. Some people say 1 because the other 4 jumped. The actual answer is 5, because deciding to do something and doing it are two different things.
When you have knowledge, use it to do good. Make a difference in this world and create happiness for yourself. Do not sit on that knowledge and let it go to waste.
There is an old Chinese proverb that states: The best time to get started was 20 years ago, the second best time is now!
Now is the best time because you cannot go back and change what has passed. Tomorrow never comes, as my parents used to tell me daily, so why are you waiting for that day to get started? The best, and to be frank the only, way to get started, is by taking action today.
Nike use the tag line, Just Do It, and I want you to add a word to this - Now! Repeat the mantra, Do it now, over and over until it becomes a habit. When you have an idea or you need to make an important phone call say to yourself, "do it now", and then take action.
Procrastination is the killer of dreams and taking action now is the catalyst so be intentional and take control of your life - Do it now!
Whether you are running a team or you are an individual contributor it is common for most of us to focus on the numbers. In other words we are given a target, whether this be a financial return for the period or a number of sales required. The challenge is that when we focus on the numbers the vision tends to get lost.
The ideal situation is to remain focused on the vision and then the numbers will be be achieved.
Why? Because this is another indication of a growth mentality rather than a goal mentality. When keeping the overall vision top of mind everyone involved is aware of what is expected and buys into the vision. This will ensure that the goals (numbers) are aligned to the vision and therefore will be achieved.
Think about this as you go through you day and see where your focus is being directed.
As you go through life and complete your daily routine it is important to keep your eyes open. Now, you may be saying to yourself that you always have your eyes open otherwise you would bump into things!
Of course this is true, but I am talking metaphorically, in other words be aware of what opportunities are in front of you. Most of us go through life with our heads down, making sure we complete the tasks in front of us and therefore miss potential opportunities. This is when we tend to bemoan our "bad luck" and the fact that other people always seem to get the "lucky breaks".
Keep your head up, your eyes open, and be aware of what is being presented so that you can take advantage.