What do you think the missing word is in the statement: Sometimes you win, sometimes you .......?
Conventional thinking would say "Lose" but in the world of John Maxwell we say "Learn". This is a mindset change and one that I believe everyone should adopt. We learn from our mistakes and therefore we should see failure as a learning opportunity - in other words a good thing.
I know, you are probably shouting out "What?, you are seriously saying that failure is a good thing?"
Yes, I am. I believe that if you don't fail you are not trying hard enough. This is part of my philosophy about having a Growth mindset rather than the traditional Goal mindset. We should be looking to grow and learn every day, pushing ourselves and our limits in order to achieve things most people don't believe are possible.
You can find out more by joining my online course, Your Third Quarter, where I talk about this in more detail.
Do you have a plan for you personal growth?
A few years ago, like most people, my answer to this question was "No, what are you talking about?"
You see I thought that hard work and effort alone would get me the things that I wanted. The truth is, it doesn't. This is why a lot of people are in a rut, stuck doing something they don't really enjoy, wondering when their next "break" is going to come along, thinking that if they work harder, work longer, things will get better.
They key to moving upwards is personal growth so I ask again, "Do you have a plan for your personal growth?"
If you don't, like most people, it is OK. The good news is that it is never too late!
Take me, for example. I was 50 when I finally realized that I could take control of my life and my destiny if I truly wanted to find happiness. I will tell you more about my own journey in my program: Your Third Quarter. Suffice to say, I turned my life around by becoming intentional about my actions. I moved from a goal...
Do you know what the opposite of decision making is?
Procrastination! The habit of putting things off to another time is not only the opposite of decision making, it is also the killer of dreams!
Why do we end to procrastinate? I believe it can be overcome by understanding our purpose, vision and strategy. This may sound simple, and it is.
When you know what you end objective is and why it is important to you, it becomes easier to learn prioritizing and scheduling skills. These are the key to eliminating procrastination because you know why it is important to complete these tasks that may not be your favorite and would previously have been put off.
If you want to know more about overcoming procrastination by identifying your purpose, vision and strategy, you can join me in "Your Third Quarter" where I show you a way to start a new life towards freedom.
I live in Florida and at this time of year we have afternoon storms every day. Even though this is a well-known fact and it happens every year, I am still surprised when people complain about it. Don't get me wrong, I am not a fan of storms myself so why am I surprised?
We all have a choice in how we live our lives, so we should take responsibility and make decisions that are right for us. If we do not do so then we have no one to blame but ourselves. The surprising thing is that most people don't do this and I have made it my mission to help people to discover their purpose in life so that they can make the right decisions for them.
Once you have identified your purpose you are then in a position to clarify your destination - your dream. These are the starting points and once defined, and only then, you can start to work out how to move forward - your strategy.
Have you ever heard of the expression: You have 2 of these and 1 of these, use them in that proportion?
I can't remember exactly when I first heard this although I know it was during my time in retail sales in the UK. In case you haven't heard it, allow me to explain the context behind the saying.
The 2 that is being referred to are your ears and the 1 is your mouth. You see a lot of people, especially sales people, have a tendency to speak before they have listened to what the other person really needs. They either assume they know the answer or they simply do not care as they are consumed with their own self importance and agenda.
So my message today is a simple one: listen to gain understanding before opening your mouth and offering a solution.
I see a lot of people that live in a reactive state - that respond to issues and challenges when they arise. I prefer to be proactive and look for potential obstacles and challenges in advance so that I can find ways to overcome them BEFORE they happen.
Being reactive, or firefighting, is a major cause of stress and since I moved to a proactive state of mind I have noticed that my stress levels have reduced significantly.
I find that it is common practice to start moving before gaining a complete understanding of the reason for the action. What a lot of people also fail to determine before moving is what they want the end result to look like. Sounds crazy doesn't it but look at what is happening in your own workplace and take note of what you see.
My programs work on a simple, yet very effective, 3-step process:
Do you know what your purpose in life is?
This is not a trick question, I am genuinely interested to know as I believe that this is the fundamental core of everything that we do and it is this understanding that will ultimately lead to a life of freedom and happiness.
I did not know what mine was until about a year ago. Let me clarify, I knew what I enjoyed doing but I didn't know why I enjoyed it - discovering this is the key to your purpose. Once I spent the time digging deep and asking myself questions I can say with 100% honesty that my life turned around.
Before I came to this realization I honestly thought that success brought happiness and I couldn't understand why my personal life was a mess when my professional life was pretty successful. You may be wondering the same thing?
Happiness leads to success, not the other way around. Once I started to follow my purpose I became happier and, as a consequence, I became more successful in my own mind, and that of others. People...
You can make up for a lot of lost things but one thing that you cannot get back is lost time.
In my coaching and mentoring I have found that most people are not good at organizing their time. Prioritizing and scheduling is not that difficult, once you have formed a habit. The tricky part is breaking away from conventionality and forming the habit in the first place. I have written before about how most people believe it takes 3 weeks to form a habit but it actually takes an average of 66 days for it to become natural.
Take a look at your day ahead and ask yourself what you want to achieve and then look at whether you actually allocated time and a plan to achieve it, or are you going to "play it by ear" and hope that you get things done? I will tell you now that "Hope" is not a strategy!
In my course, Your Third Quarter, I cover the skills of prioritizing, scheduling, and creating more time to do the things you love to do I have used these in my life and I can tell you, without...
In my course and workshops I have two sections that look at prioritizing and scheduling. I believe that these are the key to being in control and one thing that I know for sure is that you need to be in control of your life for if you are not, life will control you.
When I first explain my theory and methods, some people think it is a little obsessive at first but when they listen to the theory and put it into practice they invariably see the benefit.
When you fail to plan your day you will almost certainly not be as productive as you could be. I wrote recently about SOS (shiny object syndrome) and this will take you off track quicker than you can say SOS! When you block segments of time and allocate it to a specific task that you have identified as one of your priorities it enables you to focus on that thing, therefore being more productive.
If you are interested in finding out more about this method, I cover it in my course, Your Third Quarter, and then go much deeper into detail...