I live in Florida and at this time of year we have afternoon storms every day. Even though this is a well-known fact and it happens every year, I am still surprised when people complain about it. Don't get me wrong, I am not a fan of storms myself so why am I surprised?
We all have a choice in how we live our lives, so we should take responsibility and make decisions that are right for us. If we do not do so then we have no one to blame but ourselves. The surprising thing is that most people don't do this and I have made it my mission to help people to discover their purpose in life so that they can make the right decisions for them.
Once you have identified your purpose you are then in a position to clarify your destination - your dream. These are the starting points and once defined, and only then, you can start to work out how to move forward - your strategy.
Have you ever heard of the expression: You have 2 of these and 1 of these, use them in that proportion?
I can't remember exactly when I first heard this although I know it was during my time in retail sales in the UK. In case you haven't heard it, allow me to explain the context behind the saying.
The 2 that is being referred to are your ears and the 1 is your mouth. You see a lot of people, especially sales people, have a tendency to speak before they have listened to what the other person really needs. They either assume they know the answer or they simply do not care as they are consumed with their own self importance and agenda.
So my message today is a simple one: listen to gain understanding before opening your mouth and offering a solution.
I see a lot of people that live in a reactive state - that respond to issues and challenges when they arise. I prefer to be proactive and look for potential obstacles and challenges in advance so that I can find ways to overcome them BEFORE they happen.
Being reactive, or firefighting, is a major cause of stress and since I moved to a proactive state of mind I have noticed that my stress levels have reduced significantly.
I find that it is common practice to start moving before gaining a complete understanding of the reason for the action. What a lot of people also fail to determine before moving is what they want the end result to look like. Sounds crazy doesn't it but look at what is happening in your own workplace and take note of what you see.
My programs work on a simple, yet very effective, 3-step process:
Do you know what your purpose in life is?
This is not a trick question, I am genuinely interested to know as I believe that this is the fundamental core of everything that we do and it is this understanding that will ultimately lead to a life of freedom and happiness.
I did not know what mine was until about a year ago. Let me clarify, I knew what I enjoyed doing but I didn't know why I enjoyed it - discovering this is the key to your purpose. Once I spent the time digging deep and asking myself questions I can say with 100% honesty that my life turned around.
Before I came to this realization I honestly thought that success brought happiness and I couldn't understand why my personal life was a mess when my professional life was pretty successful. You may be wondering the same thing?
Happiness leads to success, not the other way around. Once I started to follow my purpose I became happier and, as a consequence, I became more successful in my own mind, and that of others. People...
You can make up for a lot of lost things but one thing that you cannot get back is lost time.
In my coaching and mentoring I have found that most people are not good at organizing their time. Prioritizing and scheduling is not that difficult, once you have formed a habit. The tricky part is breaking away from conventionality and forming the habit in the first place. I have written before about how most people believe it takes 3 weeks to form a habit but it actually takes an average of 66 days for it to become natural.
Take a look at your day ahead and ask yourself what you want to achieve and then look at whether you actually allocated time and a plan to achieve it, or are you going to "play it by ear" and hope that you get things done? I will tell you now that "Hope" is not a strategy!
In my course, Your Third Quarter, I cover the skills of prioritizing, scheduling, and creating more time to do the things you love to do I have used these in my life and I can tell you, without...
In my course and workshops I have two sections that look at prioritizing and scheduling. I believe that these are the key to being in control and one thing that I know for sure is that you need to be in control of your life for if you are not, life will control you.
When I first explain my theory and methods, some people think it is a little obsessive at first but when they listen to the theory and put it into practice they invariably see the benefit.
When you fail to plan your day you will almost certainly not be as productive as you could be. I wrote recently about SOS (shiny object syndrome) and this will take you off track quicker than you can say SOS! When you block segments of time and allocate it to a specific task that you have identified as one of your priorities it enables you to focus on that thing, therefore being more productive.
If you are interested in finding out more about this method, I cover it in my course, Your Third Quarter, and then go much deeper into detail...
What drives you to keep going every day?
Are you striving for improvement or are you happy where you are?
These are not trick questions, I am genuinely interested to know what motivates people. The difficulty for most people is that they do not know their purpose, often referred to as your "why". Do you know yours?
I will be the first to admit that I didn't know my purpose for the first half of my life and it showed. I bounced around from job to job and relationship to relationship. I was successful professionally but I was not fulfilled so I knew there had to be a better way.
One of the challenges is that we get into a comfort zone that is hard to break out of. We know we want more, we know we aren't happy, but we have the security of a regular paycheck and don't want to risk that - does this sound familiar?
The good news is that you do not have to stay in this comfort zone. You are full of passion and purpose, you just need go invest time in yourself to find it. I promise you,...
To most people the acronym SOS is a warning or a cry for help. It is to me too but in a different way to the conventional version of Save Our Souls.
SOS = Shiny Object Syndrome
Do you suffer from this? I realized that I have done for my whole life and now that I am aware of it I am being intentional about removing SOS from my life.
So what does it mean? You may remember an animated movie where dogs would shout "Squirrel" and run in a different direction - that was me and this is SOS. You may also know it as "The path of least resistance" or the quick fix.
As I build my business I receive many, and I mean many, emails and advertisements for what I would describe as "Get rich quick" programs. Does this sound familiar to you? One thing I know is that there is no quick route to success. It starts with identifying your purpose, creating a vision, then forming a strategy to reach happiness - which is the ultimate success.
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I believe that if you want to grow and live a life of freedom, you need to identify your purpose and make that the core of everything that you do. I will take this a stage further and add that your main purpose and dream should be huge, unimaginable, and one that scares you just a little.
To put this into context I want to use the example of creating the most beautiful garden with flowers that bloom all year round with amazing smells that take help you to relax and lose yourself as you sit and think. Doesn't this sound idyllic? This is how I see freedom, being able to choose what I want to do, when I want to do it, and allowing my mind to create new and wonderful ideas that will add value to other people.
When creating this place of freedom, there will be times when weeds start to appear. Do you leave those weeds and think that they won't change the beauty of the garden or do you pull them out as soon as you see them? Life is the same, we will have challenges that could derail our...
I went to the Magic Kingdom this morning and while I was there I shot several live videos to share examples of how Disney is intentional about things. It started with the parking lot, which is huge, where people often forget where they park. Disney labels each section with a character name and numbers each row. Cast members are there suggesting guests take a picture so that they remember where they parked, yet some still forget after a long day in the theme park.
Disney are intentional about how they park guests and keep a track of what rows fill up at what time. Therefore if you have forgotten where you parked all you need to do is seek out a parking lot cast member, tell them what time you arrived, and they will be able to pinpoint the area where you would have parked.
This is just one example of many ways that Disney are intentional with everything they do. How are you being intentional in your life, and if you are not currently doing so, what can you do to start today?