If we only look at what we have in front of us we will never find progress. This may sound like an obvious statement and I challenge you to look at your own situation and ask yourself whether you do this?
I know that I used to and it was only when I started being curious, asking questions, that I started moving forward and finding answers that created room for improvement.
There is a lot of research that shows how many questions children ask and, in comparison, how many adults ask. If you take the lower end of the statistics it is said that adults ask on average 9 questions per day where children ask 125 - that is a massive difference and is the main reason why children are the best learners.
Start asking more questions, look for doors that can open new possibilities, and find a way to learn and develop every day.
I struggled with life, not knowing what I wanted to do or where I wanted to go. Does this sound familiar? I suspect that most people feel this way at least some time during their life, and maybe for an extended period.
The challenge is that if you do not have a clear picture of why you exist, why you do what you do, and where you want your life to go, it is highly unlikely that you will ever find true freedom and happiness.
In my experience I have observed that people usually change for one of two reasons: crisis, or desperation. You may think this is inaccurate, so look back at your life and think about when you have made major changes, why was that?
Clarity is the key. As soon as I discovered my purpose, my "why", it was like a curtain had been lifted and I could see the path ahead. When you get on this path the world is a better place and the future becomes bright.
Try it, leave the mist and darkness and find the light, hope, and inspiration that will lead you to freedom and...
As I studied the chapter on "Specialized Knowledge" from Napoleon Hill's book "Think and Grow Rich" this morning the following sentence stood out to me:
"Those who are not successful usually make the mistake of believing that the knowledge acquiring period ends when one finishes school"
Specialized knowledge is not the traditional "education" as we have come to know it. This is knowledge that sets you apart from the crowd, it is what makes you unique or gives you an advantage. Knowledge that is gained at school is general knowledge and while this will result in qualifications or diplomas it means nothing unless it is put to use.
I have seen a lot of people who have a degree or qualification in a subject that they are not using in their current position so it raises the question as to what the advantage of this is? Compare that with the person who has completed an apprenticeship and worked their way through the ranks, learning the business from the ground up - who has the more...
How good are you are asking for help? Being comfortable with asking for help is important, but it's more important to be comfortable with accepting help when it is offered.
This does not mean that you accept advice from anyone, you need to be sure that they have your best interests at heart and will support you whatever happens. You will come across people who want to deter you from your success and growth, so analyze the feedback and help offered before accepting it.
Asking for, and accepting, help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness that most people believe. When you are growing and you are stretching yourself, you will need the help and support of other people so be prepared to accept this when offered.
Fear is something that stops you doing what you really want to do. It could be a simple task, or it could be a life changing one. Many people do not take the step to change their life because they are afraid of what other people will say or think.
The questions is: Why does this matter?
If you are looking for validation from other people you will never make a move that will change your life. Most people live in their comfort zones and as such will advise you against doing something that they see as a risk. They do not understand why this may be so important to you and how it will fulfill you, so make your own decisions and show them you are right by your success.
Remember this: If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always gotten. Are you happy to stay as you are for the rest of your life or would you life to start a new life and live with freedom doing more of what you love to do every day?
Problems are opportunities for learning. While this is true, have you ever thought of them in this way before? For the longest time I didn't but then I found the art pf positive mental attitude and my outlook changed dramatically.
You need to tackle the problem head on and neither overestimate or underestimate the scope of it. When you come across a problem you have two buckets to choose from. One contains water and will put the fire out, while the other is full of gasoline and will ignite the fire further so be careful which you choose.
"Positive thinking is how you think about a problem. Enthusiasm is how you feel about a problem. The two together determine what you do about a problem" - Norman Vincent Peale
Here is the 4 things that you can do to turn a problem into a learning opportunity:
Try it and let me know how you get on.
"Choose your attitude" is a phrase that I have shared with my teams over the years and I was thinking about this today as I walked my dogs.
Our mindset determines our attitude, which in turn affects how our day goes. What is your mindset? Are you looking for solutions or are you focusing on the problems? Are you excited about your day or are you approaching it with trepidation?
It takes time to create the habit of choosing your attitude and becoming aware of your mindset and I guarantee that when you become more skilled at this practice you will see results in many ways.
Short message today as, very often, less is more.
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the volume of tasks that you have to complete?
This is a natural feeling and when it occurs we actually have a tendency to achieve nothing as we worry too much and therefore never really get started. When you focus on one thing at a time, the one thing that needs to be done, you will make progress and when that task is complete you repeat the process with the next task.
This is all about prioritizing and scheduling in order to be intentional about what you do. It starts with having a clear understanding of your purpose, commonly referred to as your "why". When this is defined it is far easier to be objective about what tasks need doing as a priority and them schedule them accordingly.
Try it today, pick the one thing that will make you life easier and work on that task. When that is complete, move onto the next. Progress equals momentum so just get started, do it now!
"One does not discover new lands without consent to lose sight of the shore for a very long time" - Andre Gide.
When you read this quote what do you think?
I am a proponent of us all having a dream that is so big it scares us just a little. When we have a dream this big it may seem out of sight and that is OK. As Andre Gide says, it should be out of our sight so that we can discover new ways of getting there.
If you know all of the steps required it means that you are not pushing yourself and dreaming big. Think about a car ride that you take at night. You can't see the destination, in fact all you can see is a few hundred feet ahead that the car lights illuminate. You trust that you are on the right path and as you keep moving the road ahead is lit until you eventually reach your destination.
Your dream is the same, so dream big and live your life for you.
Mistakes are going to happen when you push yourself to be the best you can be. In truth, they also happen when you are not pushing yourself but for different reasons. Either way, we should learn from these mistakes and count them as a blessing.
This is what I refer to as having a growth mentality where we stretch ourselves every day in an effort to continue growing and developing our performance. In this state we will try new things and when we try new things we will inevitably be faced with temporary setbacks, commonly referred to as failures.
I am preparing to hold my first Mastermind workshop with a combination of adults and 10-16 year old kids, based on John C. Maxwell's book, Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn (Adult and Teen version). The message is this: Setbacks only become failures when we accept them as such so adopt a different mindset and use these as opportunities to grow.