When I was a child growing up in England there was a common saying: Life begins at 40!
I remember when I was approaching 40 this gave me a sense of excitement, almost as if something was going to happen by magic - and nothing happened!
So what does this popular saying mean? I have been thinking about this a lot recently and it has prompted me to design a new program: "Your Third Quarter". My conclusion is that we are at the half-way stage of our lives so, much like any sports game, we should review what has happened in the first half and plan how we are going to approach the rest of our life to maximize it.
American football and basketball games are broken into quarters so when we reach 40-something we are essentially starting our third quarter. When you look at the most successful teams they generally have an outstanding third quarter as this sets up the final quarter. Life is the same, Your Third Quarter is the set up to retirement so make the most of it and don't live in regret....
"The fruit of the tree is always on the limb" - John C. Maxwell
What do you think of when John says this? He used this on his "Minute with Maxwell" focused on the word "Risk".
If you want to get on in life you will need to take risks. These should be calculated risks where you have thought through the benefits before acting. If you want to climb the ladder you have to take your foot off the first rung to move to the second and third. John uses a baseball analogy to say that you cannot get to second base without taking your foot off first.
If you risk nothing, you will receive nothing, and then wonder why you have nothing. I see too many people that are waiting for their "lucky break" or for someone to hand them their next opportunity on a silver platter - news flash.......THAT WON'T HAPPEN!!
Take some time to reflect on your life, what have do you want to do with your future? What makes you happy?
I am here to help and have programs that will enable you to identify your "why" and...
In Think and Grow Rich Napoleon Hill writes: "Thousands of men and women carry inferiority complexes with them all through life, because some well-meaning, but ignorant person destroyed their confidence through opinions or ridicule"
This is not always intentional behavior on the other persons behalf, it could be a sign of their own insecurity or fear of failure. Many people do not want others to succeed as it makes them feel inadequate in their own achievements. On the face of it you may think this is harsh, but think about it for a moment. When was the last time that someone discouraged you, or you discouraged someone else, from trying something out of the ordinary? What was the reason for this discouragement?
Hill also writes: "If you are influenced by "opinions" when you reach decisions, you will not succeed in any undertaking, much less in that of transmuting your own desire into money".
I will add that you can change the word money to your goal or ambition as not all of you...
You are just one idea away........from being able to live a life of freedom and happiness.
The best ideas are ones that are born from personal experiences. This means that we all have the capability to have an idea that can change our lives. The two keys are recognizing the idea for what it is and secondly, acting on that idea and turning it into reality.
I am sure, like me, that you can think back to many times in your life when a thought came into your mind - something like: Wouldn't it be good if..... or I would love to be able to.....
I want you to promise yourself that next time you have such a thought or idea, you take action and turn it into something real. It doesn't have to be something that will change the course of humanity. It could be something small like getting up 30 minutes earlier every day to read. The important thing is that you act on the idea and turn it into reality.
Once you start it opens the flood gates more ideas will start to flow from your mind and when...
Today I am asking a straight forward question that you may, or may not, have an answer for: "What do you want from your life?"
If you have been following my journey you know that I am a firm believer in the fact that YOU control your destiny and fate. Yes, there are outside factors that exist but ultimately you can control those. Too many people are waiting for their "lucky break" or "the right time" or they feel that they are "entitled" to a promotion because they have been in their position for a long time.
Basically this is a sign of limiting beliefs plus a lack of taking responsibility and ownership for your life.
So I ask you again: What do you want from your life?
The follow up question, once you have answered the first one, is: What are you going to do about it?
Thirdly, and possibly most importantly: When are you going to start?
There is no time like the present, if you don't believe me refer to this ancient Chinese proverb:
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years...
I remember when I was growing up in England that people would say "Life begins at 40". At the time I thought this was so far in the future that it was not relevant. As I approached 40 my life was not going as I intended. I had been successful at work but my personal life was a mess. I was so excited to see what this new life would be when I hit this magical age of 40!
Low and behold, nothing changed so what was all the hype about? I was waiting for something to happen as no-one had said that you need to do anything yourself. In the modern world I think that 50 is the new 40 but even then it is us that needs to take control and make a difference - there is no magic formula!
When I realized this it really did start to change my life. I began to think about what was truly important to me, I identified my "why" and then used that to formulate a plan for success. This is an essential part on living a new life that can lead to fulfillment and happiness. Your life does change in mid-life...
Have you ever wondered why you wake up during the night and yet when the alarm goes of and you hit "snooze" you feel tired all day?
I did, and then recently I read some facts that helped to explain this. I learned that we have sleep cycles which last about 90 minutes and repeat several times throughout the night. Each cycle consists of a light sleep, followed by a deep sleep and then a dream state. The interesting thing is that there is also a sleep cycle alarm clock built into our brain. This puts us into a wake up phase ranging from 30-minutes to 2-hours before our individual sleep cycle has tracked our normal wake up time - fascinating right?
When you hit the snooze button and roll back over to sleep some more, you are actually resetting your sleep cycle and therefore your brain is telling your body that you have another 90 minutes of sleep to come. When you get up at the next alarm you will feel tired because your body is expecting to be asleep for another 80 minutes or so -...
Napoleon Hill wrote: Tell the world what you intend to do, but first show it.
The context around this statement in Think and Grow Rich was regarding not disclosing information about your ideas in case other people stole them before you could put them into action. I want to take it a stage further and relate it to the "Walk the walk, don't just talk the talk" concept.
Too many people talk about what they want to do or wish they could do and yet never take action. Later in life these same people will bemoan their "bad luck", or lack of a "lucky break" when the truth is, all they had to do was take action on their idea - in other words show the world what they intended to do instead of merely tell them about it.
This is a symptom of entitlement and wanting things to drop into our lap rather than being prepared to earn the right to something by working for it. Don't be one of those people. Take the bull by the horns and follow your dream with a passion and desire that will carry you...
"Just as ripples spread out when a single pebble is dropped into water, the actions of individuals can have far-reaching effects" - Dalai Lama.
I often hear people say that what they do has no effect, they are just one person so what difference does it make! This is far from the truth as the Dalai Lama states in his quote above.
There is a law of cause and effect which states that: for every effect there is a definite cause. We may not realize or be aware of the effect our actions have but it is also true that for every reaction there is an equal and opposite reaction.
I talked previously about change and how we should make small changes in order to instigate the big changes in life. This is also referring to the ripple effect where each of those small changes adds up and creates the big change. Ripples are happening all around us. If you get up 5 minutes late in the morning what happens? Your whole day is affected by that simple 5 minutes.
I encourage you to put the ripple effect...
When I was in Sales, one of my Managers once told me: Your have 2 ears and 1mouth, use them in that proportion.
He was referring to the art of active listening and using that to understand what the customer needed rather than wanted. I have used this philosophy ever since, not just in the sales world, in everything that I do. Have I always been successful? No, but when I catch myself not doing this I remember those words and get back on track.
As I study the chapter on "Decisions" in Napoleon Hill's book, Think and Grow Rich, these words came back to me again. In this chapter Hill talks about how successful people have the habit of making decisions promptly and changing them slowly. He goes on to add to: "Let one of your first decisions be to keep a closed mouth and open eyes and ears".
Hill is suggesting that we should not let ourselves be influenced by others as, if we do so, we will have no desire of our own and, therefore, are less likely to be successful. Close friends and...