Are you a user of the famous "To-do" lists?
I have used these for a while and, if you are anything like me, they usually sit on the desk, the counter top, or in a drawer and rarely get referenced! Why then do we use them and how can we be more effective with our use of them to get the things that need doing, done?
One way is to learn how to prioritize your "To-do" list. On the list you will have things that "could" be done and you will also have things that "should" be done. The "should do" trump the "could do" so move them onto your priority list. From there work out what will give the greatest reward and return and prioritize further. Then, and only then, you need to schedule time to complete these tasks.
I am not suggesting that you ignore the "could do" list as these still have a place, I am merely saying that the "should do" list needs completing first so that you avoid becoming distracted. Try it and let me know how you get on.
Most people, like me, would struggle to identify one thing that is the most beneficial to their progress. Think about it for a moment; if you could only do one thing this week what would you choose to do?
The concept behind this idea is focus. When we focus on something we are generally successful - that is, if we are focusing on the right thing of course. The ideal thing is to focus on the thing that you are passionate about or are most skilled at. When you love doing something, or are good at it, you generally enjoy it so focusing on this should be easier and more productive.
This theory blends in with my own work of helping you to identify your purpose and then using that to clearly define a dream - the one thing that will change your life. The subject is too broad to dig deeply into through this blog so if this had peaked your interest and you want to learn more email me at [email protected] and I will send you more details on how you can change your life.
When I talk about living a life with financial freedom I mean being able to live without fear of debt or paying the bills. Many people seem to think this refers to being a millionaire but it doesn't, at least in my opinion. In his book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill writes this statement in the chapter on Decision:
"The person who reaches a definite decision to procure the particular job, and make life pay the price he asks, does nor stake his life on that decision; he stakes his economic freedom"
This is why I believe it is important to find your purpose, your "why", and then pursue a job that fulfills this. When you do so you will find happiness and with happiness comes freedom. If you are doing a job that you love it will not feel like work and, chances are, you will perform better because of that fact. When you are happy and performing well the benefits will flow in the form of pay.
What decision have you made with regards to your career and future?
When I first heard this word, definiteness, I was not even sure it was a real word! It isn't in the dictionary so maybe it isn't but what I have come to learn is that it describes the art of being definite in what you do.
In my studies I am finding that "Definiteness" of decision making is what sets the success apart from the unsuccessful. People who make their prompt and quick decisions, and change them slowly, are generally more successful than those who deliberate and take too long to make a decision. This shows the world that they have confidence in knowing where they stand and what they want. Indecision has the reverse affect and tends to make other people nervous.
Now don't get me wrong, I am not endorsing making rash decisions without consideration - that is just irresponsible! Indecision is curse of not discovering your "why" and results in people not knowing what they stand for, and consequently what they want from life, culminating in far too many people staying in jobs...
In the past I have fallen into the common trap of striving for perfection and I now understand that this is not the way to go. Perfection does not exist and, although it is a belief of mine that we should have very high expectations, if we are only looking for perfection we are constantly going to be disappointed.
Your goal for today is to be better than yesterday - simple as that! If you improve a little every day, that equals a lot over a period of time. Every large task should be broken down into small manageable tasks and goals. Your growth and development is exactly the same. Le Bron James practices for hours every day even though he is regarded as being one of he best basketball players of all time. He isn't satisfied with the level he has achieved, he wants to keep improving and as he gets older, and better, he has to work even harder.
The world will make room for those that have a clear picture of where they are aiming and use their words, and actions, to demonstrate this....
In earlier blog posts I have talked about how a I work best when I have a routine and a schedule for everything. While this is true I can to the realization this morning that I also need to have a degree of flexibility within my schedule. Now, don't get me wrong, I am not endorsing procrastination, I am saying that sometimes the schedule needs to be switched to make best use of time. Let me give you my example from this morning.
My plan for the day looked like this:
7:00 am - Walk the dogs
8:00 am - 10:00 am - Watch England in their World Cup match
10:00 am - 12:00 pm - Watch online training classes
12:00 pm - 1:00 pm - Work on advertisements
1:00 pm - 3:00 pm - Work on my course content
3:00 pm - 5:00 pm - Cut the grass
5:00 pm - Bedtime - Time with Mary
So why did I have to be flexible? I looked at the weather forecast and this time of year we usually have afternoon storms in Florida. The forecast shows a 40-50% chance of rain between 2-5pm so that wouldn't work. I also remembered...
The secret of your success is determined by your attitude and your agenda today. I have talked in previous posts about the dangers of procrastination and how it is the killer of dreams. Your attitude is another example of something that can make or break you. Even with a great attitude you are not guaranteed success with that alone. Your agenda is what will define your success, and it starts today!
What does your day look like?
Do you have a clearly defined agenda of what you want to achieve?
Are you being realistic in your plans?
Are you allocating the correct amount of time to each task?
Are you dedicated to sticking to this plan?
These are questions that you may be asking yourself already and potentially have the answers. My follow up question if this is the case would be: Are you taking time at the end of each day to reflect on what happened and your progress?
These may sound like basic ideas, and they are. Some of you may be saying that this is a little excessive but I can...
I think I am correct in saying that we all want more "Good times" and less "Bad times" right?
I thought so! Here is the thing; you will not appreciate the good times if you do not have the bad times. You may disagree with this statement but let me explain further.
Initially you will recognize the good times because, subconsciously, you are comparing them with what has happened in your life to that point. However, if things continue to go well you will find that after a time you become complacent about the good times and they become the norm, therefore you do not recognize them as "Good times", make sense?
Whether we like it or not, we will all have days, or moments in time, when things do not go as we planned them. How we deal with these times and this adversity is what defines our character. Do we roll over and cry "woe is me", or do we stand up and overcome the adversity with intentional actions?
Think about this as you go through your day, whether you are having a good one or a...
This quote from Esther Perel arrived in my email this morning: "Self-esteem is the ability to see yourself as a flawed individual and still hold yourself in high regard"
This was interesting to me because most people who see themselves as flawed do not hold themselves in high regard, hence the trend towards depression and anxiety. Accepting that you are not perfect is an essential component of growing. I don't want to burst your bubble but "Perfection does not exist" so stop beating yourself up for not achieving it!
I do believe, however, that you should be pursuing constant improvement and to do this you need to continue to grow and learn every day. This could be through books, podcasts, articles etc. but it can also be through your own experiences. In fact, I would go so far as to say it SHOULD be through your own experiences more than anything else because they are real to you and tangible.
If you haven't read my thoughts on daily reflection I highly recommend that you do so....
What is your most valuable possession?
Many of you will be thinking about the thing that you own which has the most monetary value or is the dearest thing to your heart, as I did when I first heard this question.
In fact, your most valuable possession is the next 24 hours that you have in front of you. I will take this a stage further and add, it is what you do with it that makes it even more valuable.
I use a saying a lot in my teaching: You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink! I believe that we all have an enormous amount of untapped potential that resides in our subconscious mind, waiting to be released. I can help by providing the tools but I cannot make you pick them up and start using them (metaphorically speaking of course).
The same is true of the next 24 hours: it exists for all us but how many will be intentional about maximizing that time and making the most of every minute to do good? Sadly, the answer is not many and that is why I created my programs,...