For my blog today I had an inspiration to write about horizons. This came to me when Mary sent me the picture attached which is a view over the lack behind our sub-division: Lake Apopka.
When you look at this picture all that you can see is a horizon. It looks like nothing is beyond it but I know that there is something there. This is a lake but it looks like the sea.
In life we will be faced with circumstances that appear to have no end, a horizon without a view of what lies beyond. What carries us through these situations is our will, our passion, and our desire to succeed. For this to work we need to know what our "why" is and how many of us truly know this?
The lake doesn't always look as beautiful and serene as it does in this picture, and that is true of life too. If you expect everything to go smoothly without any challenges you are in for a rude awakening. What remains true, is that whatever the immediate outlook, there is something over the horizon that is worth chasing.
Someone who micromanages is like a coach who wants to get in the game and play. A leader's role is to guide and support, then sit back and cheer from the sidelines.
I have been in the situation where my boss wants to be involved in making every decision and wants to have the final say on everything. The effect of this is a team that feels undervalued and becomes demotivated. How can a manager expect to develop their team if they are not prepared to give some responsibility away?
I deliberately used the term "manager" rather than leader here because there is a distinct difference. A Manager pushes whereas a leader pulls their people forward.
Are you a leader or a manager?
People do not care how much you know until they know how much you care.
This saying is so true and I live by it every day - I am honest enough to say that I didn't always believe this. I had a leader once who would tell me that he didn't care whether people liked him but he did demand respect. I will say this: you cannot demand respect, it is earned, and now I know that one way to earn this is to show how much you care.
We are human beings with feelings and as a leader it is vital to connect with people. This doesn't mean that we have to be best friends, it doesn't mean that we would socialize with everyone outside of work and become friends. It merely means that we are creating respect by showing that we care.
Try it and see what results you get - you will be amazed!
When people hear the word value the natural reaction is to think that this means cheap in the same way that being on a budget has a negative connotation. To me value is a positive word, it shows that I am receiving something that will benefit me, be of value, and help me to progress.
In all of my offerings I am looking to add value to other people, which was one of the motivating factors in drafting my why statement: To add value to other people so that they can become the best version of themselves.
This doesn't mean that my services will be the cheapest available but it does mean that I will do everything in my power to provide value for money where people can learn something that will help them to achieve their dreams and ambitions.
What value to you bring every day?
Many people now like to say that they have a mentor, or that they are a mentor, but what is a mentor really?
A mentor should not tell us what to do, they shouldn't be spending time telling the us how they achieved success, they should be walking alongside us showing what we are capable of achieving.
Being a mentor is about adding value and helping us become the best version of ourselves in order to fulfill our potential. We are not our mentor and therefore we should not be looking to "copy" the path that our mentor took, nor should the mentor be looking for that. The relationship is not about the mentor!
Yes, the mentor can share personal experiences to help illustrate a point and clarify something in our thought process but remember, it is about us and we have to find the answer for ourselves in order for it to mean something. We need to take ownership for decisions we make as it is us that has to live with them, not the mentor.
So whether you have a mentor or you are a mentor,...
Do you know your purpose?
What is a purpose?
These may seem like simple questions but many of us do not have a true grasp of what we want to do, why we are here, what our desire is, and if many of o that do have an idea are not sure how to pursue it.
A purpose is what will carry you forward, especially when times get tough. Everything you do should be rooted in your purpose and fulfill your desire. When you have a purpose you will be able to live your life with intention and avoid living in regret.
Everyone has the right to live a life that they love and be able to say: I am living the dream!
I thought hard about what to title today's blog and ultimately decided on Reality.
Yesterday I visited the 9/11 memorial museum in New York City. What a somber and sobering experience that was. I had visited the earlier memorial back in 2010 and while I was amazed by that small but powerful collection of artifacts and pictures at the time, it was nothing compared to the current memorial.
I chose reality because, for me, this is what the memorial brought home to me. 9/11 was an event that will remain one where everyone who was alive at the time will remember where they were on that tragic day. The reality comes in because I started asking myself yesterday "what has changed".
For a period after 9/11 I remember the world being united against the atrocity that had happened. As I walked around the exhibitions yesterday I saw pictures and stories of people coming together in a common cause. Then I kept flashing forward to today and recalled some of the petty arguments and "news" stories...
Do you know your destination?
When I pose this question to you I am asking you whether you know your long term destination - in other words, if you could do anything you wanted and money wan't an object what would you do?
When you think about this try and be creative, think without boundaries and stretch your mind. It doesn't matter what is it that you come up with, the point is that you are being creative. Next, ask what is it about that destination that makes you feel good?
Once you understand your feelings it is then possible to be realistic about what you can achieve and set a plan to get there. After all, If you do not know where you are going, it is highly unlikely that you will get there!
"Rule books tell people what to do.
Frameworks guide people how to act.
Rule books insist on discipline.
Frameworks allow for creativity" - Simon Sinek
How do you live your life?
Are you governed by rules or do you have a framework that allows for your growth and development?
If you are in the former category contact me and I will show you how to create a framework that can take you on your journey to greatness.
Today is a new day, with new possibilities, so let me ask you this question - Are your ready?
Are you ready for the opportunities that lie ahead?
Are you ready to take advantage of what is offered to you?
Are you ready to receive?
A lot of us may answer yes, but take a moment and think about it - what have you done to prepare yourself for the day ahead? What is the first thing you do when you get out of bed? What is your morning routine and how is that preparing you for the day ahead?
If you are intentional about what you do, prepare yourself for any opportunities that may present themselves, and be open and ready to receive "gifts" that come your way, I promise you that they day will be a good one.