I had a harsh dose of reality check this morning when I missed a meeting. You should know that tardiness is one of my pet hates. I follow the saying that on time is late, 5 minutes early is on time!
I had arranged to meet someone at a Starbucks about 45 minutes away from my house. I didn't know the area so I did what I normally do and set the destination into the Google Maps app on my phone. I had plugged the phone in to charge and removed it as I left the house. All was well and I set off on my journey. The projected arrival time was 5 minutes before the meeting was due so I was doing well.
30-minutes into my journey my phone died. I had relied on the GPS to get me to my destination. I knew what road it was on but I didn't know whether it was East or West - safe to say I chose the wrong direction and by the time I realized and turned round it was too late and I missed the appointment.
The reality check I received was two fold. Firstly, be prepared and have a back up plan in case...
At every presentation I facilitate on failing forward, moving out of your comfort zone, and how to beat average I start by asking the audience how many have a clear picture of a dream. The usual answer is between 2-5% of the participants say yes, I have a clear dream.
At first this statistic shocked me and I thought it was an anomaly but it isn't, every time it is in the same range, or sometimes less!
There are four main reasons why people do not pursue their dream and the first one is discouragement from others. This prompted me to think about why this is. After all, why would you discourage someone else from pursuing something that they love.
As I studied this further I came to the conclusion that it is a fear of failure. Not that the person who is being discouraged may fail - more that the person who is discouraging them will feel inadequate and a failure if the other person succeeds!
We all have the power to follow our dreams so do not discourage others for doing so. By all...
Do you follow directions or are you following a direction?
You may be saying to yourself now: What is he talking about they are the same thing?
Actually there is a subtle difference by removing the plural. Directions are instructions that you are given to complete a task. For example, following a recipe, putting together a piece of furniture, or working out how to program your DVR player.
Direction is a vision of why you want to do something, your why. This is something that you choose, not something that is provided to you.
So let me ask you again: Are you following directions or do you have a direction?
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Many of us will have ideas that come and go in our minds. What makes the difference between most of us that have ideas, and the few that turn those ideas into reality?
There are many books on this subject and three in particular form the basis of my studies and teaching:
The basis of all three books is understanding your passion, your desire, your why. Once you have a clear understanding if this it is possible to start forming a dream, and it is this dream, along with the process that goes with it, that will turn your idea into reality.
I will clarify here that the "Ideas" I am referring to a the big ones, which is why there is a process involved. However, the same applies to the smaller ideas as you need to believe in them before you can turn them into reality.
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Yesterday I wrote about practical dreamers and today I want to talk about the importance of Dreaming big.
This is probably one of the main reasons that people do not follow their dreams - because they are afraid to dream big as it can overwhelm them. This is one of the topics that is covered in my training programs as dreaming big is about forming the vision, the key is to start small and actually get moving.
Imagine setting out on a journey that you have never been on before. We do it all the time in every day life when we visit a new Country, City, or even a place within our own town. When we do so we trust that whatever is taking us there will use the best route don't we?
I am writing this from Nashville, a place I had never visited before. I booked my tickets, turned up at the airport and got on the plane. I didn't worry about what direction the plane was going, I trusted that it would land in Nashville and it did. I them walked to the ground transportation area and got on the...
Practical dreamers is a term that has been floating around in my mind for a few days now. I wondered what it meant and now it is becoming clearer to me.
There is a fundamental difference between having a fantasy and a dream. Practical dreamers take a fantasy and turn it into a dream that will come true. They do this by believing in it and working out a practical plan as to how it can get under way. Notice that I didn't say make it come true?
I have been studying and teaching John C. Maxwell's book: Put Your Dream to the Test and as I dig deeper into the concepts and apply them with my own experiences my dream is becoming a reality by applying the principals of my new term: "Practical Dreamers".
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For my blog today I had an inspiration to write about horizons. This came to me when Mary sent me the picture attached which is a view over the lack behind our sub-division: Lake Apopka.
When you look at this picture all that you can see is a horizon. It looks like nothing is beyond it but I know that there is something there. This is a lake but it looks like the sea.
In life we will be faced with circumstances that appear to have no end, a horizon without a view of what lies beyond. What carries us through these situations is our will, our passion, and our desire to succeed. For this to work we need to know what our "why" is and how many of us truly know this?
The lake doesn't always look as beautiful and serene as it does in this picture, and that is true of life too. If you expect everything to go smoothly without any challenges you are in for a rude awakening. What remains true, is that whatever the immediate outlook, there is something over the horizon that is worth chasing.
Someone who micromanages is like a coach who wants to get in the game and play. A leader's role is to guide and support, then sit back and cheer from the sidelines.
I have been in the situation where my boss wants to be involved in making every decision and wants to have the final say on everything. The effect of this is a team that feels undervalued and becomes demotivated. How can a manager expect to develop their team if they are not prepared to give some responsibility away?
I deliberately used the term "manager" rather than leader here because there is a distinct difference. A Manager pushes whereas a leader pulls their people forward.
Are you a leader or a manager?
People do not care how much you know until they know how much you care.
This saying is so true and I live by it every day - I am honest enough to say that I didn't always believe this. I had a leader once who would tell me that he didn't care whether people liked him but he did demand respect. I will say this: you cannot demand respect, it is earned, and now I know that one way to earn this is to show how much you care.
We are human beings with feelings and as a leader it is vital to connect with people. This doesn't mean that we have to be best friends, it doesn't mean that we would socialize with everyone outside of work and become friends. It merely means that we are creating respect by showing that we care.
Try it and see what results you get - you will be amazed!
When people hear the word value the natural reaction is to think that this means cheap in the same way that being on a budget has a negative connotation. To me value is a positive word, it shows that I am receiving something that will benefit me, be of value, and help me to progress.
In all of my offerings I am looking to add value to other people, which was one of the motivating factors in drafting my why statement: To add value to other people so that they can become the best version of themselves.
This doesn't mean that my services will be the cheapest available but it does mean that I will do everything in my power to provide value for money where people can learn something that will help them to achieve their dreams and ambitions.
What value to you bring every day?