Many people now like to say that they have a mentor, or that they are a mentor, but what is a mentor really?
A mentor should not tell us what to do, they shouldn't be spending time telling the us how they achieved success, they should be walking alongside us showing what we are capable of achieving.
Being a mentor is about adding value and helping us become the best version of ourselves in order to fulfill our potential. We are not our mentor and therefore we should not be looking to "copy" the path that our mentor took, nor should the mentor be looking for that. The relationship is not about the mentor!
Yes, the mentor can share personal experiences to help illustrate a point and clarify something in our thought process but remember, it is about us and we have to find the answer for ourselves in order for it to mean something. We need to take ownership for decisions we make as it is us that has to live with them, not the mentor.
So whether you have a mentor or you are a mentor,...
Do you know your purpose?
What is a purpose?
These may seem like simple questions but many of us do not have a true grasp of what we want to do, why we are here, what our desire is, and if many of o that do have an idea are not sure how to pursue it.
A purpose is what will carry you forward, especially when times get tough. Everything you do should be rooted in your purpose and fulfill your desire. When you have a purpose you will be able to live your life with intention and avoid living in regret.
Everyone has the right to live a life that they love and be able to say: I am living the dream!
I thought hard about what to title today's blog and ultimately decided on Reality.
Yesterday I visited the 9/11 memorial museum in New York City. What a somber and sobering experience that was. I had visited the earlier memorial back in 2010 and while I was amazed by that small but powerful collection of artifacts and pictures at the time, it was nothing compared to the current memorial.
I chose reality because, for me, this is what the memorial brought home to me. 9/11 was an event that will remain one where everyone who was alive at the time will remember where they were on that tragic day. The reality comes in because I started asking myself yesterday "what has changed".
For a period after 9/11 I remember the world being united against the atrocity that had happened. As I walked around the exhibitions yesterday I saw pictures and stories of people coming together in a common cause. Then I kept flashing forward to today and recalled some of the petty arguments and "news" stories...
Do you know your destination?
When I pose this question to you I am asking you whether you know your long term destination - in other words, if you could do anything you wanted and money wan't an object what would you do?
When you think about this try and be creative, think without boundaries and stretch your mind. It doesn't matter what is it that you come up with, the point is that you are being creative. Next, ask what is it about that destination that makes you feel good?
Once you understand your feelings it is then possible to be realistic about what you can achieve and set a plan to get there. After all, If you do not know where you are going, it is highly unlikely that you will get there!
"Rule books tell people what to do.
Frameworks guide people how to act.
Rule books insist on discipline.
Frameworks allow for creativity" - Simon Sinek
How do you live your life?
Are you governed by rules or do you have a framework that allows for your growth and development?
If you are in the former category contact me and I will show you how to create a framework that can take you on your journey to greatness.
Today is a new day, with new possibilities, so let me ask you this question - Are your ready?
Are you ready for the opportunities that lie ahead?
Are you ready to take advantage of what is offered to you?
Are you ready to receive?
A lot of us may answer yes, but take a moment and think about it - what have you done to prepare yourself for the day ahead? What is the first thing you do when you get out of bed? What is your morning routine and how is that preparing you for the day ahead?
If you are intentional about what you do, prepare yourself for any opportunities that may present themselves, and be open and ready to receive "gifts" that come your way, I promise you that they day will be a good one.
In my daily inspiration note today I received the following: Average organizations give their people something to work on. Great organizations give heir people something to work toward.
While this is a subtle difference I believe that this is a way to incentivize your workforce to do better, and the beauty is that it doesn't cost any money! Does your organization offer you the ability to use your initiative in order to reach a pre-determined objective or do they merely tell you what to do?
If you are a leader, how do you treat your staff? I have experienced first hand the power of empowering employees. This gives them ownership and responsibility, which in turn means that they will have pride in their work. By doing this the results are generally higher and they will go the extra mile to find ways of making things work.
Try it, you may be surprised!
As the song goes: New York, New York, so good they named it twice.
I arrived in New York today for the first time in over 7 years and found it as fascinating and appealing to visit as ever. Would I like to live here? Absolutely not. Big cities are not my cup of tea. I don't like traffic and crowds so would never survive long term. I also find the extremes of temperatures hard to handle as I am not used to it.
Having said that, this is a great place to visit with so much to see and do. We arrived at our hotel in Manhattan around 5:00 pm after an eventful trip on the subway from JFK. After checking in we decided to take a walk to Times Square to experience the atmosphere and grab a bite to eat.
I find the mixture of old buildings, skyscrapers, and enormous LED billboards fascinating. We walked by Bryant park and nowhere is the contrast greater than here. The quaint little seating areas and cafes outside of the public library building remind me of London and Paris, yet in the...
I had a few thoughts going around in my mind this morning and took some time to choose which word I wanted to use as my title for today's blog. The final decision was the word Feedback.
It is said that feedback is a gift, whether it is being given or received. How many of you feel that is the case in your life?
In his daily "notes to inspire", Simon Sinek today wrote: "Trust is built on telling the truth, not telling people what they want to hear"
Being honest when giving feedback is vital, after all, wouldn't you rather hear honesty so that you can find ways to continually improve? Some people don't, of course, but this is for other reasons that I will cover in subsequent messages. If you want to get on in life, be successful, and find fulfillment in whatever it is that you seek, you need people around you who will tell you the truth.
Find these people and become the best version of yourself.
We are all required to make decisions every day of our lives. Some are more important than others and ultimately every decision we make will have an influence on our life.
Have you noticed that some people appear to be better at making decisions than others? Why is this? Is it knowledge, confidence, or something inherent to our personality?
We are not taught how to think and therefore we are not taught how to make decisions. We rely on our instinct, but is this really the best way?
The opposite of decision making is procrastination - the art of putting decisions off until a later date. Procrastination comes from a lack of confidence and skill in decision making - hoping that someone else will make the decision or that circumstances will change on their own and therefore the decision is no longer required.
How good are you about making decisions?