As the song goes: New York, New York, so good they named it twice.
I arrived in New York today for the first time in over 7 years and found it as fascinating and appealing to visit as ever. Would I like to live here? Absolutely not. Big cities are not my cup of tea. I don't like traffic and crowds so would never survive long term. I also find the extremes of temperatures hard to handle as I am not used to it.
Having said that, this is a great place to visit with so much to see and do. We arrived at our hotel in Manhattan around 5:00 pm after an eventful trip on the subway from JFK. After checking in we decided to take a walk to Times Square to experience the atmosphere and grab a bite to eat.
I find the mixture of old buildings, skyscrapers, and enormous LED billboards fascinating. We walked by Bryant park and nowhere is the contrast greater than here. The quaint little seating areas and cafes outside of the public library building remind me of London and Paris, yet in the...
I had a few thoughts going around in my mind this morning and took some time to choose which word I wanted to use as my title for today's blog. The final decision was the word Feedback.
It is said that feedback is a gift, whether it is being given or received. How many of you feel that is the case in your life?
In his daily "notes to inspire", Simon Sinek today wrote: "Trust is built on telling the truth, not telling people what they want to hear"
Being honest when giving feedback is vital, after all, wouldn't you rather hear honesty so that you can find ways to continually improve? Some people don't, of course, but this is for other reasons that I will cover in subsequent messages. If you want to get on in life, be successful, and find fulfillment in whatever it is that you seek, you need people around you who will tell you the truth.
Find these people and become the best version of yourself.
We are all required to make decisions every day of our lives. Some are more important than others and ultimately every decision we make will have an influence on our life.
Have you noticed that some people appear to be better at making decisions than others? Why is this? Is it knowledge, confidence, or something inherent to our personality?
We are not taught how to think and therefore we are not taught how to make decisions. We rely on our instinct, but is this really the best way?
The opposite of decision making is procrastination - the art of putting decisions off until a later date. Procrastination comes from a lack of confidence and skill in decision making - hoping that someone else will make the decision or that circumstances will change on their own and therefore the decision is no longer required.
How good are you about making decisions?
In my reflection time every morning I wait for a word to come into my mind and this word becomes the subject of my daily blog. Today I experienced several words rolling around in my mind but one stood out and this word is care.
As I pondered on this subject I thought about the phrase: People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.
This is very true and one that everyone should take to heart. When I think about it from my own point of view I remember the people in my past who seemed to be more interested in showing how great they were, completing tasks for me rather than showing me what to do, "demanding" respect because they were the best, and not really caring about anyone but themselves.
I then thought about the people who took time to listen to me, to ask questions about how I was feeling, whether I understood something, and what they could do to help me. These people I did respect and trust. These were the people that I would do anything for - walk...
It is said that you will never know the character of a person until they have faced adversity, and I believe that.
When things are going well it is easy for us to be positive and happy but how we handle adversity is what defines us. It is true that most, if not all people, who succeed in life face adversity or a bad start.
Nelson Mandela was imprisoned for years before being freed to become the leader of South Africa.
Robert Burns, one of the greatest poets ever, was illiterate, grew up in poverty, and became a drunkard yet wrote some of the most beautiful poetry by clothing his thoughts in words.
I have faced my own share of adversity and, to be honest, I didn't always handle it well so therefore I got what I was looking for subconsciously. When you are ready to receive good things and your desire is strong enough, you will handle adversity differently. I know, because it has happened to me and it can for you too.
Have you ever caught yourself saying that you are "Waiting for the right opportunity to come along"?
What does that mean exactly, and how will you know when the "right" opportunity presents itself? Are you ready to accept it?
For many people I suspect that this is really a way of using the lack of a "right" opportunity as an excuse for not pushing themselves to achieve more. I believe that we need to make our own opportunities and by doing so we are more likely to take advantage and grab them.
It is true that the harder you work, the luckier you get. Let me clarify - this is not "luck", this is a result of hard work, desire, and persistence as you pursue your dream.
Don't look for excuses, take the bull by the horns and chase your future with an energy, passion, and desire that will not allow anything but success.
Self-Image is quite simply how you see yourself. It sounds simple doesn't it, so why do so many people have a low image of themselves?
I often find my self pondering this question and have a few theories.
One is that people inherently choose to live within their comfort zone. By this I mean that they don't like to take risks for fear of failing. When we fail it makes us feel inadequate. However, failure is merely a state of mind too. I prefer to describe a situation where something didn't go as planned as being a temporary setback, not a failure.
A temporary setback is something that we can learn from, regroup, re-strategize, and try again. By doing so we will overcome obstacles, defeat adversity, and grow into something better than we are today, increasing our self-image as a result.
Don't settle for existing in your comfort zone. Be intentional about increasing your self-image and become the best version of yourself, and always remember these words:
You will never outperform your...
Quitters never win and winners never quit!
What defines the most successful people from the rest? One thing, they do not quit. When faced with something that doesn't work they see it as a temporary defeat whereas most people see failure.
Thomas Edison famously took 10,000 attempts before he created the incandescent light bulb.
Walt Disney face bankruptcy several times before creating the successful Walt Disney Company.
The Wright brothers crashed multiple times before they took flight.
While other people quit, these pioneers kept trying, learning from their mistakes, regrouping, and finding new ways to succeed - and they did!
If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.
Remember these three words and use them in everything that you do. The quality and quantity of the service you render, backed by the spirit in which it is rendered will set you apart from everyone else.
This applies in all walks of life: you will get further in your employment if you are delivering a high quality of work, completing all of your scheduled tasks on time, and serving your customers, guest, clients, and fellow workers. The same applies in your personal life by doing all of the odd jobs and chores at home while spending time with your loved ones and enjoying a quality of life.
Do not underestimate the benefit of a true work-life balance. Apply the same principals at home as you would do to be successful at work and never take anything for granted.
Over the years I have noticed an increase in people who want to stress their proficiency in multi-tasking. It has seem to become the buzz phrase for efficiency but let me make my thoughts clear, there is no such thing as multi-tasking.
What do I mean by this?
Our minds and bodies are only built to do one thing at a time and therefore the habit and proficiency that we should all be endorsing for effectiveness, is the ability to master single-tasking!
You may have multiple tasks that need to be completed but the fact remains, you can only do one at a time. Therefore, prioritizing and scheduling is a key factor in completing these multiple tasks in the time frame required.