How do you tell when a statement is a reason for not doing something or an excuse?
One of the ways is to determine if the person in question is taking responsibility or are the using a circumstance or situation as the main factor? If they are taking responsibility it is likely that this is a genuine reason but if they are blaming circumstances or other people it may well be an excuse.
There is usually more than one way to facilitate a result and have all of these options been considered before declaring it a no-go? If they have then it is also probably a reason but if not it is an excuse.
This is not an exact science but these factors are good indicators as to the difference between a reason and an excuse.
Your thinking determines the path that your life will take. If you have a limiting belief in your own ability that will manifest itself and you will not find sustained success. The reverse is also true, if you believe that you can achieve your dreams and put your thoughts into action, it will come true.
The important part of this process is to back up your thinking with intentional actions that cultivate your desire and faith, while backing it up with persistence. Be specific about what you want to achieve and keep this top of mind every day so that you start to live your life in the way that you want to become.
What do you feel about traveling? Does it excite you or does it scare you a little?
Today I traveled to New York City on my own to meet up with some fellow influencers for 3 days. The plane ride itself is fairly standard for me and then there is the public transport to get from the airport to the hotel.
Normally I would research this for hours to find the nest route and then double check it. Even then, I would keep checking it as I traveled in case I had made an error. Today was different though. I wondered if the maps app on my phone would work for public transport, and it did. I was able to see the details of the journey and it told me which train to get, when to change, and even the walking directions from the subway station to the hotel.
Life is the same. You are not alone, there are people and systems that will help guide you to where you want to go. All you have to decide is where you are starting from and what your destination is.
It continues to amaze me just how many people say that they want to change their lives but they are waiting for the perfect time before taking action. If you want to make a difference in the future that lies ahead of you, it requires you to take different actions today.
The longer you wait to do something the greater the chances are that you will never do it. Think back through your life, can you identify times when you wanted to do something and waited for the perfect time?
The perfect time does not exist, this is just another form of procrastination which is the killer of dreams. The right time to do something is now, not later today, not tomorrow, not on Monday - right now!
The answer is to get started, put one foot in front of the other and move forward. The law of momentum will kick in and as you gain confidence your pace will increase until eventually, you will be flying.
Over the last year or so I have lost count of how many people have indicated that they are interested in growing themselves personally and professionally yet fail to take action when faced with the choice.
I have determined that the majority are looking for change yet are not prepared to change their actions to get it. The only theory that I can determine is that there is an inherent fear of failure and therefore a wish to stay with their self imposed comfort zone.
The simple fact remains, if you want different results tomorrow, you need to take different actions today! You need to start being the person that you want to become as waiting for it to happen on it's own is only going to lead to a life of disappointment.
Your time is now, so take action and take the life that you deserve and want. Don't live in fear of failure - live in fear of regret!
As a leader it is your responsibility to carry the load and encourage your followers to find their strengths, then stay within this strength zone and become the best they can be.
When I refer to a "Leader", I am talking about anyone that has influence over other people so that could be within your family, your friends, your colleagues at work, or your direct reports if you have them.
A leader should also understand their purpose and strive to be their best in everything they do, as it is this behavior that will lift up others around them.
So, what is your gift, what is your purpose, what is your strength, and are you living in these zones every day?
As I talk to more and more people I am finding a trend where we are worried about how others perceive us. I will tell you that you cannot control other people's perception and so the best thing to do is to concentrate on being yourself and following your values.
I had some questions about this on a recent Facebook live broadcast and on my radio show. The listeners were concerned about hurting other people if they followed their own dream. I answered by saying that if these people truly loved and cared for them, they would respect the decision and love them anyway.
My advice is always to live your own life, be yourself, and be the person you want to become.
On my radio show today I was talking about change and how habits dictate the results we obtain, either good or bad. One question I got from a listener was:
"How do you know what needs to change to get what you want?"
This is a great question and the answer is through your daily reflection. The change required may not be obvious at first because usually the root cause is buried, it is only the symptom that is on the surface.
Your daily reflection should include an honest look at what happened during that day and a review of what went well and what didn't go quite so well. Then you need to look deeper and answer what was the action that caused that result? You need to replicate the good actions and eliminate the bad ones. These are the things that need to change.
We all have expectations for the way our life should go, including how we feel other people should behave. How should we manage those expectations so as to avoid disappointment?
I expect a lot of myself and have had a tendency to judge other people by the same level. I have learned over the years that not everyone has the same expectations, behaviors, and desires so I have been disappointed on more than one occasion as a result.
This is why I have evolved from the "Golden Rule", treat others as you would want to be treated, to the "Platinum Rule", which says to treat others as THEY would expect to be treated. The difference is subtle, but at the same time it is huge as we are all different and what is expected for one person may not be for another.
This is a difficult skill to master, and one that will take constant use, and when you have it, you will make a difference to other people and feel a sense of value yourself.
There is a common belief that you learn more from your losses than you do your wins. While I believe it is important to learn from our losses and analyze what went wrong, I also believe that it is just as important to evaluate what went well and learn from that too.
Many people take wins and never reflect on why they won. When you can identify the successful components you will be able to replicate them in other actions that didn't go quite so well. You will also be able to see components that could have been improved, in turn making the experience even better.
In summary, reflect daily and review everything that happened during your day, both good and not so good.