I saw a saying today that said: The truth lies just beneath the surface. It got me thinking about how often we ask questions to make sure what we see on the surface is actually the correct information?
This applies to our personal and professional lives as what we see is not always what exists. The art of questioning is a skill that we are not taught, so how do we learn it?
I believe that this is an area where good leaders stand out - and when I say leaders this is not only at work. We are all leaders, where ever we are, because we influence other people, intentionally or not.
I have spoken to many leaders over the years who seem to think that loyalty is a right and should be expected from their team. This is not the case - loyalty is not a right, it needs to be earned.
Loyalty and respect go hand in hand as they are both earned based on your behavior and actions. People do what people see, so it is important to demonstrate the same behaviors that you are asking of your team.
"Do as I say, not as I do" is a saying that should be eliminated from any vocabulary as it is not a recipe for success. Why should anyone think it is OK to expect other people to behave in a different way from you?
Think about it from your own point of view: Who are you loyal to in your life and who has your respect, and then ask yourself why this is?
When you hear the term maturity, what do you think of? Most people believe this is something that is earned with age, but it is not necessarily so.
"Maturity is doing what you are supposed to be doing, when you're supposed to be doing it, no matter how you feel" - Dom Capers
Maturity comes as a result of the lessons we learn in life, whether they be form wins or from losses. Many people say that you learn from your losses, and this is true and it is just as important to be humble and learn from your victories too.
I wonder how many people spend as much time analyzing their wins as they do their losses? If we do this we will continue to grow and develop - this is the definition of maturity in my eyes.
How is your mindset today?
Are you thinking positively or is everything a problem?
70-80% of people are not happy with their current job and if this is you, the good news is you can do something about it - starting today!
You are not alone so don't hide in the shadows waiting for something to change by itself. There is a better life waiting for you to claim it and it starts with you accepting your worth and believing in yourself.
We all have expectations and when these are not met, how do we feel and react?
This morning I had my car booked in for a service. I arrived right on time and was greeted and shown to the waiting area where my service advisor would come and get me. I have been using this dealership for over 3 years now so I know what to expect and they always deliver.
This morning was different though. I had been waiting in the area for 30 minutes so I went up to the receptionist and asked, politely, what was happening. She apologized and found my service advisor who, it turns out, had not been made aware that I was here.
I was disappointed and in a previous mindset I would have made a fuss. My new mindset and training made me think twice so I said that I was disappointed but it couldn't be helped now. I was polite and courteous and so was the advisor. If I had got upset it would have put me in a bad mood for the day. I cannot control what happened so I had to put it into perspective and move...
"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending" - Maria Robinson
You may be in the position where you are facing self doubts about your ability to lead the life that you really want to?
You may be thinking that it is too late for you to switch careers or climb the corporate ladder?
You may be thinking that you cannot compete with younger people?
You may be embarrassed about what other people will think and say?
These inner fears are all myths - fears are: False Emotions Appearing Real. You can break free from these myths and fears because they are not real, they exist only in your head so change your mindset and decide what you want from life, then go for it.
Ask yourself these questions:
What does Freedom look and feel like to you?
What would it mean to you to live a life of freedom?
What are you going to do today to make a difference in your life?
It is well known that nothing worthwhile comes easy and there are no short cuts to sustained success. One of the things that is required to get you to the top is self-discipline.
Self discipline enables you to keep pushing forward when things get a little tough.
Self discipline makes habits your servant in stead of your master.
Self discipline is most easily developed when you are working within your strengths and passion.
A lack of self discipline shows a lack of knowing what you want from life.
This is why I say that everything starts with understanding your purpose in life, what drives and motivates you to want to keep going uphill. Create consistency in your life and this will compound to generate results that most people can't even dream about.
People ask me what the difference is between a leader and a Manager and I have two answers:
1: Leaders go first, in other words leaders lead from the front and pull their team with them whereas Managers tend to lead from the rear, pushing their team.
2: Leaders lead people where Managers manage processes.
It is possible for a great leader to become a great Manager but it is not always easy for a great Manager to be a leader, let alone a great one.
If you have ambitions to be a great leader remember that your success is determined by the performance of your team. By definition, you cannot be a leader, let alone a great leader, without followers and people will not follow you if they do not trust and respect you.
My thought for today was inspired by a sporting achievement that demonstrates it is possible to overcome adversity. When Tiger Woods won the Players Championship today it was the first tournament he has won in over 5 years.
Whether you follow golf or not, you are probably aware that Tiger was the world number one for around 16 years before he suffered injuries and personal challenges that would have destroyed most people. It wasn't long ago that he could barely walk and had numerous back surgeries. He wasn't expected to play golf again, let alone win a major tournament.
He was determined to succeed. He had a burning desire to get back to his best and so he kept going through his adversity, resulting in his win today.
Don't let anyone tell you that you cannot achieve something. If you want it badly enough you can work towards it. Will it be easy? No, but the result will be worth it when you prove the world wrong and live your dream.
Most companies have annual performance reviews that could determine your merit increase but how effective are these?
Do you conduct your own performance review, regardless of whether it is required by your employer?
Do you set your annual objectives in advance?
How do you monitor your progress?
These are questions that you need to be asking yourself and taking time to analyze and review your answers. You are in control of your destiny and therefore need to take responsibility for the actions that will take you there.
Look back at my suggestions for daily reflection as this is the first step in understanding where you are now and where you want to get to.