How do you feel about your life today?
Are you happy with the direction it is going?
Do you look forward to every day?
If you could create and design your ideal life, what would it look and feel like?
If you are anything like me, you will have experienced a time in your life where you knew you wanted more, you may be experiencing this now.
You could be at a crossroads, unsure as to which turn to take?
You may be questioning everything that is in front of you and possibly second guessing every situation?
Do any of these things sound familiar?
If they do, please know that you are not alone, many people, in fact I would go as far as to say that most people, feel exactly the same. The truth is, we are conditioned not to let this be known as it could be seen as a sign of weakness or a lack of gratitude for what we have.
Today was my last day helping the youth of Madison County, but I will be back!
I taught 4 x 6th grade classes today on leadership and influence and also read a story to pre-kindergarten kids.. The encouraging thing is that almost all of the 72 6th grade kids had a dream and so I told them how important it is to hang onto that dream and start taking actions that will carry them towards it.
I reflected afterwards about how these dreams disappear from most people as they grow up. When I ask this question in adult groups the number of people who have dreams is typically less than 5%. Why do we lose the dreams we have as children?
It reinforced my own dream: that every child should have the opportunity of a college education, regardless of finances. I am going to make this dream come true and start providing scholarships next year then leave a legacy that will continue after I am gone because these kids are our future and they have some great dreams that need to be nurtured.
Today was the first day of serving our youth with leadership lessons and training on understanding communication styles.
We visited two venues, one was an alternative school where we worked with middle school and high school students. It saddened me to see how they feel that there is no hope and how people tell them that they don't have a future. I could see that we made a difference in the 3 hours we were with them and I can only wish that this continues after we left.
The second place we visited was a juvenile detention center and my expectations were that this would be a tougher environment than the alternative school but I was wrong. The girls here had a better support system from the staff at the center and we could see right from the start that they were being taught good principals as it was written all over the gym walls. These girls have made mistakes but I can say with honesty that I feel they are on a path to learning and will be in a better place as a result.
During the month of October the John Maxwell Team is holding it's Global Youth Initiative where the goal is to reach 1,000,000 kids all over the world.
Today I have come to Madison, Florida, to assist some other coaches in teaching leadership to the youth of this area. We will be going to schools and sharing our stories plus teaching on how the kids can make a difference to themselves and to other people. This is a tremendously rewarding exercise and fits in with my dream of every child being able to have a college education, regardless of their finances.
Over the next three days I will be sharing my insights and lessons learned from working with these kids.
This week I have had the tremendous pleasure of spending time collaborating and working with some amazing people. In order to get what you want from life you need to associate with people who are on the same journey, with someone who is further along that journey leading the way.
This is what I refer to as a Mastermind alliance, a group that share ideas openly and offer their feedback and suggestions to help the others grow. This is a group that want you to succeed as much as they want success for themselves.
These people will be honest enough to tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear. When these minds come together it creates another, more powerful, mind that you all feed off.
We went for breakfast this morning with a plan to visit the Trinity church afterwards. We got to breakfast around 7:45am and the conversation flowed. We all engaged and shared some insights that expanded all of our thinking and before we knew, it was 10:30am. This is the power of a...
If you don't believe in yourself, why should anyone else believe in you? It is also true to say that you will never outperform your own self belief.
You may have heard me talk about this recently on my Facebook live series as it is a very real challenge for many people. We are not taught to believe that we can achieve whatever we put our minds to and I believe that the result of this is a lower self esteem for a lot of people.
There is a difference between having a high self confidence and being arrogant. I am proposing the former as this will help you to believe in yourself and therefore remove the fear of failing, allowing you to try more things. When you try things that you want to do you have a chance to be successful, whereas if you never try you will definitely not be successful!
Let go of your fears and allow your dreams to breathe.
How do you tell when a statement is a reason for not doing something or an excuse?
One of the ways is to determine if the person in question is taking responsibility or are the using a circumstance or situation as the main factor? If they are taking responsibility it is likely that this is a genuine reason but if they are blaming circumstances or other people it may well be an excuse.
There is usually more than one way to facilitate a result and have all of these options been considered before declaring it a no-go? If they have then it is also probably a reason but if not it is an excuse.
This is not an exact science but these factors are good indicators as to the difference between a reason and an excuse.
Your thinking determines the path that your life will take. If you have a limiting belief in your own ability that will manifest itself and you will not find sustained success. The reverse is also true, if you believe that you can achieve your dreams and put your thoughts into action, it will come true.
The important part of this process is to back up your thinking with intentional actions that cultivate your desire and faith, while backing it up with persistence. Be specific about what you want to achieve and keep this top of mind every day so that you start to live your life in the way that you want to become.
What do you feel about traveling? Does it excite you or does it scare you a little?
Today I traveled to New York City on my own to meet up with some fellow influencers for 3 days. The plane ride itself is fairly standard for me and then there is the public transport to get from the airport to the hotel.
Normally I would research this for hours to find the nest route and then double check it. Even then, I would keep checking it as I traveled in case I had made an error. Today was different though. I wondered if the maps app on my phone would work for public transport, and it did. I was able to see the details of the journey and it told me which train to get, when to change, and even the walking directions from the subway station to the hotel.
Life is the same. You are not alone, there are people and systems that will help guide you to where you want to go. All you have to decide is where you are starting from and what your destination is.