Feedback is said to be a gift but how many of us actually feel that this is the case? When someone offers us positive feedback it is generally accepted as a gift but is this the same when the feedback is something that maybe we do not want to hear?
As someone who wants to continually grow it is essential to encourage others to speak into your life and provide honest and genuine feedback as this is truly the only way that we will learn and grow.
It can be hard to hear the truth and to remain teachable you need to surround yourself with people who are prepared to offer constructive feedback as and when required. You need to develop a strong relationship with your inner circle so that you can credibly ask them to speak in to your life.
Remember that, as Jim Rohn says, "you become the average of the five people that you spend most time with", so choose your inner circle wisely.
I sincerely believe that we all need to understand our purpose so that we can use that to set a vision that will lead us to a life of freedom and happiness. This applies in our working lives in addition to our personal lives and is as relevant to businesses too.
I read a quote from Zig Ziglar today that I wanted to share with you: "Until you are happy with who you are, you will never be happy because of what you have"
I encourage you to practice the art of daily reflection as this will help you to be honest with yourself and identify what your purpose is. The process will take a while, and it won't always be pleasant, but I promise you that when you master this you will find a freedom that will feel amazing.
Today is a time for reflection as we remember the atrocity of 9/11/2001. I recently visited to memorial to the event and it was a very humbling experience, although one that I believe every visitor to NYC should do in their lifetime.
The human race is always seems to pull together in the face of tragedy but why does it take this to unify the world? Why can't we find a way of existing in peace and harmony where goodwill to all men is the core value?
My thoughts go out to all those who lost their lives, lost loved ones, or were affected by this horrific event and my wish is that the world can find a way of co-existing in peace. I can change the world and I will do so, even if it means making a difference just one person at a time.
Today I am going to describe the last of the 4 personality/communication styles, the "C", or cautious style.
If you are a "C" you are calculating, competent, conscientious, and careful. Your blind spot is that because of these strengths other, non "C's" may see you as being cold. The truth is that you just like to be right, to know what is expected so that you can establish a pattern with clear instructions in an organized manner that allows you to finish what you started.
A "C" actually has 3 secret fuels: Quality answers, Value, and being correct. They are generally seen as the smartest people in the room.
Remember this quote: People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.
Over the last two days I covered the D & I personality communication styles so today it is time to give an overview of the "S" style.
If you are an "S", you are supportive, steady, stable, sweet, love the status quo are shy. This is because you are more reserved and people oriented. You have the greatest heart and are the nicest person in the room.
Your secret fuel is peace and harmony, which does mean that your blind spot is sometimes you are taken advantage of so be aware of this.
You like team work, cooperation and for things to stay the same.
A secret tip for you is this: Sometimes you need to say "No" to help someone.
The next communication style I want to cover is the "I" personality.
An "I" is outgoing and very people oriented, in other words they like to be the life and soul of the party, they are Inspiring, influencing, interactive and their secret fuel, surprisingly enough, is having fun!
"I" personalities like to be liked, they express their ideas openly, they love surprises and recognition.
If you need to get the party started you have to have an "I" in the room!!
In the DISC model of Human behavior studies the D stands for Dominant. This style is outgoing and task oriented so they like to get things done, they can be direct, decisive, and demanding,
Their secret fuel, what keeps them going, is getting results.
They life to win, plan for the future, try new ideas, to be their own boss and to move fast.
As with all four styles, these are positive attributes when understood correctly. If they are not understood, however, they can be a fuel to the fire that stokes things up and alienates other people.
This is the power of DISC studies, understanding yourself and other people so that you maximize the communication between each one.
The decisions we make today will dictate the path of our future and therefore the results that we attain.
Too many people have the mindset that they will change what they are doing someday, tomorrow, when the time is right, or when it is the perfect time. The challenge with this mindset is procrastination. By putting off what you could do today until "someday" you are diminishing the possibility that you will actually do it. The longer you wait, the less likely you are to make the change - fact!
My challenge for you today is to decide what you want your destiny to be and then take one action TODAY that is going to move you closer to that destiny.
Research has shown that the population can be split into four communication styles, D, I, S, and C. We are all a blend of these four styles with one being our primary.
DISC is not profiling people and putting them in a "box", is is all about understanding people and how to communicate with them. In other words, how to speak their language.
When you communicate with someone you are encoding a message that you want them to receive. When the message arrives, the recipient decodes it. Very often the action of encoding and decoding produces different results and therefore the message is "lost in translation".
You can also see this when trying to communicate to someone in a foreign language, such as French. You may send the message in English or try and translate it into French yourself. Either way, it is not likely to be received in the state you intended. Even if you use a translator, the message can still be incorrectly relayed because they do not understand your intentions and may use...
I was inspired today by an email that contained the following quote from the secret:
"The fastest way to receive is to give, because giving starts the reciprocal action of receiving. We all receive according to how much we give. Give the best of you everywhere you go. Give a smile. Give thanks. Give kindness. Give love. Your giving should be a giving without expectation of return – a giving for the sheer joy of it." — Rhonda Byrne
I have written before about giving to grow and so I wanted to share this quote as it backs up that thought. When we give purely to receive, the Universe knows and in the long run that will run out. When you give your best and expect nothing in return, you should not be surprised when you actually receive more. This happens because you are doing things for the right reason so give kindness , give love, and make a difference in someones life every day.