When you are listening to a speaker or reading an article, is the message designed to impress you, or impress upon you?
There is an important difference between these two intentions. When someone is trying to impress you with their story it is not for anyone's benefit other than boosting their own ego. The opposite is true when the author is aiming to impress upon you as this message is for your benefit - to add value to you and make a difference.
We all influence people and it is our responsibility to impress upon them, not impress them.
Success and Failure are both the result of habits. Habits are actions and behaviors that require little or no conscious thought, in other words they have become natural.
Habits are formed over a period of time, which can range between 2 weeks and 2 years depending on the complexity of the behavior. Sometimes we make conscious decisions to form these habits and sometimes they naturally occur. Either way, if we want to improve we should be conscious of what is happening in our lives and why.
I believe that we should analyze our results and reflect on what worked, what didn't work, and what can be done differently in the future. Many people only reflect on failures, and while this is important it is just as important to analyze success too so that you can continually improve.
What habits are influencing your performance and do they need changing?
Mastering the art of letting go will help you to move forward with a purpose. Here are some examples:
What will you choose to let go of today?
What is integrity?
The definition is: Firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values.
Integrity is one of the most commonly used words when people, or companies, are asked to describe their values or strengths. In reality I wonder who many truly know what it means and actually walk the walk, not just talk the talk?
It is easy to say that you have integrity yet, when push comes to shove, shy away from it because it is not always easy to follow. I have seen this first hand and, if I am completely honest, have probably been guilty of this in the past, have you?
We should have a core set of values that we hold dear and do not compromise, with integrity being one of the pillars. I encourage you to do the right thing in every situation, even if it means that you will be temporarily disadvantaged. If you do the right thing it will result in good things coming to you in the future and, above all, you will feel good about yourself!
If we only look at what we have in front of us we will never find progress. This may sound like an obvious statement and I challenge you to look at your own situation and ask yourself whether you do this?
I know that I used to and it was only when I started being curious, asking questions, that I started moving forward and finding answers that created room for improvement.
There is a lot of research that shows how many questions children ask and, in comparison, how many adults ask. If you take the lower end of the statistics it is said that adults ask on average 9 questions per day where children ask 125 - that is a massive difference and is the main reason why children are the best learners.
Start asking more questions, look for doors that can open new possibilities, and find a way to learn and develop every day.
I struggled with life, not knowing what I wanted to do or where I wanted to go. Does this sound familiar? I suspect that most people feel this way at least some time during their life, and maybe for an extended period.
The challenge is that if you do not have a clear picture of why you exist, why you do what you do, and where you want your life to go, it is highly unlikely that you will ever find true freedom and happiness.
In my experience I have observed that people usually change for one of two reasons: crisis, or desperation. You may think this is inaccurate, so look back at your life and think about when you have made major changes, why was that?
Clarity is the key. As soon as I discovered my purpose, my "why", it was like a curtain had been lifted and I could see the path ahead. When you get on this path the world is a better place and the future becomes bright.
Try it, leave the mist and darkness and find the light, hope, and inspiration that will lead you to freedom and...
As I studied the chapter on "Specialized Knowledge" from Napoleon Hill's book "Think and Grow Rich" this morning the following sentence stood out to me:
"Those who are not successful usually make the mistake of believing that the knowledge acquiring period ends when one finishes school"
Specialized knowledge is not the traditional "education" as we have come to know it. This is knowledge that sets you apart from the crowd, it is what makes you unique or gives you an advantage. Knowledge that is gained at school is general knowledge and while this will result in qualifications or diplomas it means nothing unless it is put to use.
I have seen a lot of people who have a degree or qualification in a subject that they are not using in their current position so it raises the question as to what the advantage of this is? Compare that with the person who has completed an apprenticeship and worked their way through the ranks, learning the business from the ground up - who has the more...
How good are you are asking for help? Being comfortable with asking for help is important, but it's more important to be comfortable with accepting help when it is offered.
This does not mean that you accept advice from anyone, you need to be sure that they have your best interests at heart and will support you whatever happens. You will come across people who want to deter you from your success and growth, so analyze the feedback and help offered before accepting it.
Asking for, and accepting, help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness that most people believe. When you are growing and you are stretching yourself, you will need the help and support of other people so be prepared to accept this when offered.
Fear is something that stops you doing what you really want to do. It could be a simple task, or it could be a life changing one. Many people do not take the step to change their life because they are afraid of what other people will say or think.
The questions is: Why does this matter?
If you are looking for validation from other people you will never make a move that will change your life. Most people live in their comfort zones and as such will advise you against doing something that they see as a risk. They do not understand why this may be so important to you and how it will fulfill you, so make your own decisions and show them you are right by your success.
Remember this: If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always gotten. Are you happy to stay as you are for the rest of your life or would you life to start a new life and live with freedom doing more of what you love to do every day?
Problems are opportunities for learning. While this is true, have you ever thought of them in this way before? For the longest time I didn't but then I found the art pf positive mental attitude and my outlook changed dramatically.
You need to tackle the problem head on and neither overestimate or underestimate the scope of it. When you come across a problem you have two buckets to choose from. One contains water and will put the fire out, while the other is full of gasoline and will ignite the fire further so be careful which you choose.
"Positive thinking is how you think about a problem. Enthusiasm is how you feel about a problem. The two together determine what you do about a problem" - Norman Vincent Peale
Here is the 4 things that you can do to turn a problem into a learning opportunity:
Try it and let me know how you get on.