I remember when I was growing up in England during the 70’s and 80’s people talked about a mid-life crisis and the image that usually accompanied it was a middle aged man in a red sports car with a younger lady on his arm. Yes, this was a stereo-typical image at the time but my question is: Is there still such a thing as a mid-life crisis and, if so, what does it look like now?
I believe that the mid-life crisis still exists but it isn’t as obvious as rushing out to buy a sports car or a Harley Davidson (although I did when I turned 50!). The signs may be less obvious and here are some that you may want to be aware of:
You start to question everything that you have worked for and ask is it enough or was it all worth it?
You wonder if this is all your life is worth, have I reached my peak and now everything else is downhill as I coast to retirement?
You dread going to work on Monday morning, celebrate Wednesday as “Hump day” and live for Friday at 5pm.
I want to help make 2019 Your best year ever so I put together this training on "How to Live a Purposeful 2019"
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As we approach the holiday season many people will start to get stressed, seeing the negatives about how much they have to do, how little time they have, comparing themselves with what other people have or are doing. Others will see this season as a blessing and approach it with a sense of happy anticipation.
Which one sounds more like you?
It is said that the holidays are one of the most stressful times of year, which when you think about it is kind of ironic, right? This is a time when troubles should be left behind and we think about other people, it is the time for giving and celebration of life itself.
The truth is, we all have the ability to choose our attitude, not only at this time of year but every single day of our lives. We can choose to see the positive aspects or the negative aspects and in return we will receive the results of those thoughts. I am not denying that we all face obstacles, of course we do. The difference is how we see those obstacles. Are they things that...
How do you talk to yourself?
This may sound like a strange question but think about it for a minute, what do you say to yourself when things are going well and when they are not going quite so well? When you make a mistake, what do you say to yourself?
The next question I have is: Would you say the same to someone else?
If not, why is it okay to speak to yourself in this way? Simply put, it isn't so don't do it. Subconsciously you talk to yourself more than anyone else does so be careful what you say. Remain positive and motivational because the thoughts you put into your subconscious mind will translate into their physical equivalent.
Many people ask me how do you find your why, and how do you know when you have found it? These are great questions and all I can share is my own experience.
My life has been successful from a professional perspective but not always on a personal level. Even within my professional life I found myself always wanting more and becoming impatient for success. I had a great career in the UK as a leader/Manager within the retail automotive industry. I had a natural talent for analyzing, planning, and delivering results but it never made me truly happy. I always thought that happiness would come as a result of success and money - boy was I wrong!
Even when I started my new life in the USA with a new relationship and a career with Disney, I still was not happy. Success came professionally once again but, as in the past, it didn't bring me happiness and therefore my personal life suffered. I hit rock bottom in August 2015 and at this point I knew something had to change or I would end up self...
People often tell me that you cannot control your destiny and whenever I hear this it reminds me that most of us live in fear of failure. The underlying meaning of this statement is an excuse for not achieving more from life.
"I am the Master of my fate, I am the Captain of my soul" - William Ernest Henley
I believe that we can control our destiny by making decisions that are considered and well thought out based on the choices presented to us every day. In order to make the right decisions we need to have a good level of awareness of where we are not and where we want to go.
Once we make the decisions we need to have the courage of our convictions and believe that we are doing the right thing. By following these simple rules we will be n control of our destiny.
How many of you have a dream or a vision that you are working towards? I find that when I talk to adults in my “living the dream” master class, there are only around 5% that have a clearly defined dream. It is interesting that when I spoke to a group of teenagers about this last month the number was reversed with around 95% having a dream.
This made me wonder where these dreams go, and why do we lose sight of them?
My awareness came in 2016-17 when I knew that I wanted more from my life but I had no idea where to start. I Had a good job, as you know, but I knew that I had more to give. It was at this stage that I looked back at my life and started to analyze what had made me happy and what made me sad. As I did this I started to see a pattern emerging where I was happy when I helped people succeed and sad when I couldn’t help them. This led me to formulate my why statement, which is to add value to other people so that they can become the best version of...
The second letter in my A-Z of inspiration is B.
B = Belief.
Belief in yourself and what you want to achieve is crucial in order to succeed. After all, if you don't believe in yourself, why should anyone else?
Here is the first letter in my A-Z of Inspiration.
A = Awareness.
Awareness of where you are now and where you want to go, not what you do not have!