Many people ask me how do you find your why, and how do you know when you have found it? These are great questions and all I can share is my own experience.
My life has been successful from a professional perspective but not always on a personal level. Even within my professional life I found myself always wanting more and becoming impatient for success. I had a great career in the UK as a leader/Manager within the retail automotive industry. I had a natural talent for analyzing, planning, and delivering results but it never made me truly happy. I always thought that happiness would come as a result of success and money - boy was I wrong!
Even when I started my new life in the USA with a new relationship and a career with Disney, I still was not happy. Success came professionally once again but, as in the past, it didn't bring me happiness and therefore my personal life suffered. I hit rock bottom in August 2015 and at this point I knew something had to change or I would end up self...
When you start to think about your why I suggest that you ask yourself the following questions:
Take time to review these and really think into your answers. You may need to go several layers deep rather than scratch the surface. This is like a doctor looking for the cause rather than merely taking the symptoms as being facts.
The last question you should ask is: "What is my purpose in life?"
Write down your answer and write another answer. Keep answering until you find one that makes you emotional - that is your real answer!
I like to refer to a dream as being an impossible goal. You may ask what is the point of having a dream that is impossible to achieve, and it is a great question.
The answer is that "living your dream" is about the journey, not the destination. When you are pursuing the impossible goal, you will be stretching yourself and the goals you set along the way are the points that will give you the satisfaction.
If you fall into the trap of setting easily achievable goals you will not grow yourself and can get to a stage where you feel that you have reached your pinnacle, and this is when life gets monotonous and boring.
The other benefit of pursuing an impossible goal is that you can leave a legacy, so even if you do not achieve your goal there will be other people to carry the torch and make it come true eventually.
What is your dream?
This week I have had the tremendous pleasure of spending time collaborating and working with some amazing people. In order to get what you want from life you need to associate with people who are on the same journey, with someone who is further along that journey leading the way.
This is what I refer to as a Mastermind alliance, a group that share ideas openly and offer their feedback and suggestions to help the others grow. This is a group that want you to succeed as much as they want success for themselves.
These people will be honest enough to tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear. When these minds come together it creates another, more powerful, mind that you all feed off.
We went for breakfast this morning with a plan to visit the Trinity church afterwards. We got to breakfast around 7:45am and the conversation flowed. We all engaged and shared some insights that expanded all of our thinking and before we knew, it was 10:30am. This is the power of a...
As a leader it is your responsibility to carry the load and encourage your followers to find their strengths, then stay within this strength zone and become the best they can be.
When I refer to a "Leader", I am talking about anyone that has influence over other people so that could be within your family, your friends, your colleagues at work, or your direct reports if you have them.
A leader should also understand their purpose and strive to be their best in everything they do, as it is this behavior that will lift up others around them.
So, what is your gift, what is your purpose, what is your strength, and are you living in these zones every day?
As I talk to more and more people I am finding a trend where we are worried about how others perceive us. I will tell you that you cannot control other people's perception and so the best thing to do is to concentrate on being yourself and following your values.
I had some questions about this on a recent Facebook live broadcast and on my radio show. The listeners were concerned about hurting other people if they followed their own dream. I answered by saying that if these people truly loved and cared for them, they would respect the decision and love them anyway.
My advice is always to live your own life, be yourself, and be the person you want to become.
"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending" - Maria Robinson
You may be in the position where you are facing self doubts about your ability to lead the life that you really want to?
You may be thinking that it is too late for you to switch careers or climb the corporate ladder?
You may be thinking that you cannot compete with younger people?
You may be embarrassed about what other people will think and say?
These inner fears are all myths - fears are: False Emotions Appearing Real. You can break free from these myths and fears because they are not real, they exist only in your head so change your mindset and decide what you want from life, then go for it.
Ask yourself these questions:
What does Freedom look and feel like to you?
What would it mean to you to live a life of freedom?
What are you going to do today to make a difference in your life?
Today is a time for reflection as we remember the atrocity of 9/11/2001. I recently visited to memorial to the event and it was a very humbling experience, although one that I believe every visitor to NYC should do in their lifetime.
The human race is always seems to pull together in the face of tragedy but why does it take this to unify the world? Why can't we find a way of existing in peace and harmony where goodwill to all men is the core value?
My thoughts go out to all those who lost their lives, lost loved ones, or were affected by this horrific event and my wish is that the world can find a way of co-existing in peace. I can change the world and I will do so, even if it means making a difference just one person at a time.
Today I am going to describe the last of the 4 personality/communication styles, the "C", or cautious style.
If you are a "C" you are calculating, competent, conscientious, and careful. Your blind spot is that because of these strengths other, non "C's" may see you as being cold. The truth is that you just like to be right, to know what is expected so that you can establish a pattern with clear instructions in an organized manner that allows you to finish what you started.
A "C" actually has 3 secret fuels: Quality answers, Value, and being correct. They are generally seen as the smartest people in the room.
Remember this quote: People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.
Over the last two days I covered the D & I personality communication styles so today it is time to give an overview of the "S" style.
If you are an "S", you are supportive, steady, stable, sweet, love the status quo are shy. This is because you are more reserved and people oriented. You have the greatest heart and are the nicest person in the room.
Your secret fuel is peace and harmony, which does mean that your blind spot is sometimes you are taken advantage of so be aware of this.
You like team work, cooperation and for things to stay the same.
A secret tip for you is this: Sometimes you need to say "No" to help someone.