Many of us are caught in the "hamster wheel" of life. We go along "hoping" and "praying" that something will happen which will make us successful and happy. The thing is: hope and prayer are not strategies alone. Yes, we need to maintain hope but it needs to be backed with intentional actions that take us towards our destiny.
This begs the next question: What are you aiming for in life? Too many of us are not able to clearly articulate what we want, why, because we are taught to think small, to play safe, and not get ideas above our stations in life - Baloney!!
I want you to dream big, to shoot for the stars, to pursue significance in your life knowing that this will bring you happiness. Before you can do this you need to know WHY it is so important to you. What is it about this dream that generates emotions and feelings that are so strong you would run through a burning building to reach the destination?
Identify your purpose and then pursue it with a desire that becomes an all...
I am a little late with this message but the sentiment remains true - Happy New Year!
What are your plans and goals for 2019?
Do you have goals?
If you have goals, do you have a plan to make them come true?
Too many people start off with good intentions only to fall down at the first obstacle because they haven't formulated a plan and prepared for all eventualities. Don't let this be you!
A goal without a plan is just a wish, and a wish without action will not come true. We all have thoughts and ideas come into our minds but how many of us act on these thoughts and turn them into results? Sadly not many do.
My hope is that you become intentional about what you want to achieve in 2019 and plan with the end in mind. Do not give in to the naysayers who tell you it isn't possible and that you are crazy to have a dream. This is more a reflection of their own limiting beliefs and inadequacies than it is of your dreams and ambitions so keep pushing forward. Plan with the end in mind and...
Many people ask me how do you find your why, and how do you know when you have found it? These are great questions and all I can share is my own experience.
My life has been successful from a professional perspective but not always on a personal level. Even within my professional life I found myself always wanting more and becoming impatient for success. I had a great career in the UK as a leader/Manager within the retail automotive industry. I had a natural talent for analyzing, planning, and delivering results but it never made me truly happy. I always thought that happiness would come as a result of success and money - boy was I wrong!
Even when I started my new life in the USA with a new relationship and a career with Disney, I still was not happy. Success came professionally once again but, as in the past, it didn't bring me happiness and therefore my personal life suffered. I hit rock bottom in August 2015 and at this point I knew something had to change or I would end up self...
When you start to think about your why I suggest that you ask yourself the following questions:
Take time to review these and really think into your answers. You may need to go several layers deep rather than scratch the surface. This is like a doctor looking for the cause rather than merely taking the symptoms as being facts.
The last question you should ask is: "What is my purpose in life?"
Write down your answer and write another answer. Keep answering until you find one that makes you emotional - that is your real answer!
I like to refer to a dream as being an impossible goal. You may ask what is the point of having a dream that is impossible to achieve, and it is a great question.
The answer is that "living your dream" is about the journey, not the destination. When you are pursuing the impossible goal, you will be stretching yourself and the goals you set along the way are the points that will give you the satisfaction.
If you fall into the trap of setting easily achievable goals you will not grow yourself and can get to a stage where you feel that you have reached your pinnacle, and this is when life gets monotonous and boring.
The other benefit of pursuing an impossible goal is that you can leave a legacy, so even if you do not achieve your goal there will be other people to carry the torch and make it come true eventually.
What is your dream?
This week I have had the tremendous pleasure of spending time collaborating and working with some amazing people. In order to get what you want from life you need to associate with people who are on the same journey, with someone who is further along that journey leading the way.
This is what I refer to as a Mastermind alliance, a group that share ideas openly and offer their feedback and suggestions to help the others grow. This is a group that want you to succeed as much as they want success for themselves.
These people will be honest enough to tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear. When these minds come together it creates another, more powerful, mind that you all feed off.
We went for breakfast this morning with a plan to visit the Trinity church afterwards. We got to breakfast around 7:45am and the conversation flowed. We all engaged and shared some insights that expanded all of our thinking and before we knew, it was 10:30am. This is the power of a...
As a leader it is your responsibility to carry the load and encourage your followers to find their strengths, then stay within this strength zone and become the best they can be.
When I refer to a "Leader", I am talking about anyone that has influence over other people so that could be within your family, your friends, your colleagues at work, or your direct reports if you have them.
A leader should also understand their purpose and strive to be their best in everything they do, as it is this behavior that will lift up others around them.
So, what is your gift, what is your purpose, what is your strength, and are you living in these zones every day?
As I talk to more and more people I am finding a trend where we are worried about how others perceive us. I will tell you that you cannot control other people's perception and so the best thing to do is to concentrate on being yourself and following your values.
I had some questions about this on a recent Facebook live broadcast and on my radio show. The listeners were concerned about hurting other people if they followed their own dream. I answered by saying that if these people truly loved and cared for them, they would respect the decision and love them anyway.
My advice is always to live your own life, be yourself, and be the person you want to become.